FBIL divorce wont be final....

Miss_Sophia

My FBIL and his wife are getting a divorce. However, it most likely will not be finalized by the time our wedding rolls around in October. My soon to be ex SIL has become unstable within the last few months - drinking, anger management issues, lies and backstabbing friends she's known for years and looking up dirt on FBIL....

I do have to add that my FBIL is 34, his wife is 52. Yes, she's 52 with the attitude and behavior of an 18 year old.

Sorry for my rambling but when it comes to the wedding and we have family pictures, well, how do I handle that? I don't want to look back on pictures 20 years from now and say oh that's Sally, she and Hank got their divorce finalized that next month. I also know that it would be horribly rude to tell her, 'sorry, you can't be in these pictures,'...... It's a messed up situation.

Any advice on how to handle the formal family pictures? I'm thinking I'm just going to take them with a grain of salt and just not use pictures with her in them down the road. 

wcvsb3b5

If they are getting a divorce do you really have to inviter her to the wedding? Unless of course you really want her there I don't see how that would be a comfortable situation.. I'm not really sure how I would handle this because I don't know the details but I don't think it would be necessary to have her there and definitely not in the pictures. If they are getting a divorce it seems like she wouldn't expect or want to be.

ac_in_dc

I think you have some time. If they are separated at the time of your wedding, she won't be there, right? Even if they're still together, I can't think of very many wedding pictures that had my brother's wife in it. If they were to get divorced down the line, it wouldn't be too big of a deal, I'd think...

riverjib

Why would you invite her if they're getting divorced? Aren't they separated by now? I don't think it makes sense to include her when she won't be part of your life after you're married.