Sunday shower?

FutureMrsJDW

I've never posted on here before because you gals cover all the topics so well that I can usually just read through, but I have a question about the timing of my bridal shower that I hope you can help me with! One of my bridesmaids is hosting a shower for me, and we wanted it to be a brunch with hats a la royal wedding. We are 2.5 months away from the wedding and can't seem to find a Saturday that will work for us, so we found a common date of June 5, which is a Sunday. 

Is it inappropriate to have a Sunday brunch bridal shower, say at 11 or 12? I am not a Sunday churchgoer (I'm Jewish), but others may attend regularly. Would they be offended to be invited to something during what is typically regular church services? Thanks in advance!

emilyinchile

That's totally fine. Back when I actually went to church, my church had several morning services, so if it had been really important to me I could have gone to an earlier service and also to your shower. I know lots of other church have multiple services, or people can skip church, or they can decline your shower. Just inviting them isn't rude.

jessicabessica

I had a Sunday bridal shower.  I think you have to know your crowd--do they attend church regularly, and would it be a problem to miss it for one week or go earlier?  At least with Catholic mass, isn't there often an earlier service option, so anyone who wanted to attend and go to your shower could do both?

annakb8

I think this is probably fine. You would probably know if any of your bridesmaids were habitual church-goers, right? If it's a question of FI's family members why don't you just ask him to find out if a Sunday brunch would interfere with their normal Church routine?

lyndausvi

Mine was on a Sunday.  We had it around noon.  Didn't seem like it was a problem for anyone.

GeauxTigers17

My church also has morning service so that would be fine with me, but is there anyway you can push it a tad later? It might help the church conflicts a bit if you move it to 12:30 or 1. 

Milsey32

If that is the day that works best, do it. 

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]I've never posted on here before because you gals cover all the topics so well that I can usually just read through
Posted by FutureMrsJDW[/QUOTE]

I wish everyone had that mentality! Thank you!

Also, I agree with the PP's =)

FutureMrsJDW

These replies make me feel a lot better about it! I think I'll stick with the Sunday brunch, and I'm pretty sure most of the girls who go to church do have the possibility of attending an earlier morning service if it's important for them to go. Thanks ladies!  

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]My church also has morning service so that would be fine with me, but is there anyway you can push it a tad later? <strong>It might help the church conflicts a bit if you move it to 12:30 or 1. </strong>
Posted by GeauxTigers17[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto the others that it's fine.  Most showers I've been to, including my own, were on Sundays.  Like the others said, many churches have services Saturday evenings, early Sunday morning, and even Sunday afternoon.  If attending church is a high prioirity, they will pick a different time or decline the shower.</div><div>
</div><div>But please don't move the time to 12:30 or 1.  I have heard nothing but complaints from IRL people about showers that start around 1.  They completely ruin your day, because they last until 4 usually.  People were thanking my mom for starting mine at 11 because we were out of there by a little after 1.</div>

jerseydevil

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday shower? : Ditto the others that it's fine.  Most showers I've been to, including my own, were on Sundays.  Like the others said, many churches have services Saturday evenings, early Sunday morning, and even Sunday afternoon.  If attending church is a high prioirity, they will pick a different time or decline the shower. But please don't move the time to 12:30 or 1.  I have heard nothing but complaints from IRL people about showers that start around 1.  They completely ruin your day, because they last until 4 usually.  People were thanking my mom for starting mine at 11 because we were out of there by a little after 1.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. If they're that dedicated to church, they will choose an alternate mass to attend and will have a few weeks notice of when your shower is in which they can plan.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

The ONLY issue I would see is if someone is Southern Baptist and attends church service all day. But I assume you'd already know if you had friends like that. And if it works well for you and your BMs, then it's okay if it doesn't work perfectly for everyone. They have the option to decline.

kristeno90

  I had a Sunday shower that started at 2PM. Everyone who went to church was out well before that time. Could you make your time later?

AbbeyS2011

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[QUOTE]The ONLY issue I would see is if someone is Southern Baptist and attends church service all day. But I assume you'd already know if you had friends like that. And if it works well for you and your BMs, then it's okay if it doesn't work perfectly for everyone. They have the option to decline.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

LOL I live in NC, go to a Baptist church and we are in and out in an hour.  Your post made me laugh, but I have been to churches that had marathons sermons, 3 or 4 hours long, that I could not wait to get outta there!

My MOH was thinking of hosting a Sunday shower for me also.  I will suggest the earlier start time to her - thanks for that tidbit of info. 

GeauxTigers17

Eh, I can see that, but I would feel the same way about an 11am shower as I would about a 1pm shower. Guess it's a personal preference thing- I've never felt like my day was ruined by one because they never last longer than 1.5-2 hours here. 

I do, however, absolutely hate weddings that start at 2 or 3, so I can see the same rationale applying.