Invites... getting anxious.

akhensley81

My target mail date for the invites is June 18... thiscoming Friday. For an August 28 wedding. It's about 10 weeks... which is a little much but we didn't send formal STD's so someone suggested sending the invites a little early.

I got them all done this weekend and now I want to mail them and get it over with. Is it way too early? Or can I just get this party started? Lol.

thesuninherhead

I don't see that sending them 5 days earlier is really going to have an impact. 

akhensley81

I know, I have no idea why this is suddenly bugging me.

thesuninherhead

Well, apparently there's more people out there that can see the issue, so my vote is go with whateverthehellyoufeellike.

strawberrycrz

I don't think those few days will make a difference.  I say do whatever will make you happiest.

SaraAndrew2010

I said wait until Friday.  I think 10 weeks is a little on the early side anyway, so I was going to recommend sending them even earlier than that.  Probably doesn't make a huge difference, but I think sending them early increases the risk that a guest will get the invite, see that the RSVP date isn't for a long time, put the invite aside and forget about it.

AmoroAgain

Just wait.  Put them away in the closet and fuhgeddaboutit.  10 weeks is way early anyway.

akhensley81

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invites-getting-anxious?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4ea66bd6-bd73-40d1-a767-f2f1befbad4bPost:fe2cf98d-c513-451f-85fb-ba892db1b59e">Re: Invites... getting anxious.</a>:
[QUOTE]I said wait until Friday.  I think 10 weeks is a little on the early side anyway, so I was going to recommend sending them even earlier than that.  Probably doesn't make a huge difference, but I think sending them early increases the risk that a <strong>guest will get the invite, see that the RSVP date isn't for a long time, put the invite aside and forget about it.
</strong>Posted by SaraAndrew2010[/QUOTE]

I'm kind of afraid of that. I had several people - including my father - who told me it was rude for us not to send a STD (despite the fact that pretty much everyone knows, either by word-of-mouth or the mass e-mail my mom sent with the wedding website). They all told me I should send the invites a little early to make up for it.

Ugh now I'm just starting to get frustrated. I just got a snarky email from FMIL this morning telling me that it's "not right" to invite Jane Smith and John Smith, but not their brother Joe. I have no idea who any of these people are... just that they were names she gave me from HER family. Sorry, lady, it's not my fault that you forgot to give me his name 9 months ago when I asked.

And then my mother this morning asked me for the 400th time if the hotel information was on the invitations - despite the fact that she HAS ONE at home.

Oy. I don't know if I'm ready for this. LOL!

AmoroAgain

I say, move 6000 miles away.  It's awesome.

How do your parents even know about STD's anyway?  They're a new thing.

AmoroAgain

Oh, and we ended up inviting someone to the wedding, DAY OF because MIL forgot to give us the address for someone.  That was classy.

akhensley81

LOL Amoro OK that makes me feel better. I was scratching my head here, wondering how on earth it took her this long to realize Joe wasn't on the list. I've sent it to her at least a dozen times, as I've been making changes/revisions.

Parents know about STD's because my brother got married two weeks ago, and SIL had every bell and whistle you could think of for a wedding. Now that it's over with and all their attention is on mine, I'm getting a lot of "why don't you do it the way Sara did?"

And you know... moving 6,000 miles away is starting to look much better. These people are already making me crazy!

swim1011

STDs are not a requirement- my two close friends only did them bc one was married on a major holiday, and the other had to change her wedding date.  I'd hold off on sending the invites, 10 weeks really is pretty early!

Lyss5782

If it helps, I went through the same thing.  I was planning on mailing May 10 for my July 10 wedding...but wound up sending them on May 7 (my bday) because I just wanted them out already.  The few days really wont make a difference.

quotequeen

I received my invitations the other day and now I have to force myself to sit on them and not send them out right now.  They're pretty and exciting so it's hard, but I will force myself.  They will not go out until the last week of July......  They will not go out until the last week of July......

akhensley81

Hehehe quotequeen. I had mine for a few weeks just tucked away... then last week I decided, "okay... I can start getting them together, stamping them, etc."

FI and I ended up getting so excited about it, we both sat down with a bottle of wine on Friday and knocked them ALL out. He stamped while I addressed, it was a great assembly line. But now it's like they're burning a hole in my living room floor.

karbar42

Thankfully, I'm making mine, and I'm being a slow poke about it, so by the time I actually finish, it'll probably be just in time for them to go out.

I don't think a few days extra will kill anyone, if it's driving you crazy (or family is driving you crazy because of it), I'd say go for it.

Kristin&eric

thats crazy i just had a dream that my mom finished the invites and she didnt get my imput or anything on them!! LOL It was weird and iI was wonderinf why she got them done so early..... anyways i dont see why sending them a few days early isnt going to mess things up.usually you send invites 6-8 weeks so you are only doing it 2 weeks earlier. I think STD arent necessary unless if its a holiday or near one.

sar919

I do not think that you are going to be sending them out too early. Especially since you did not sent save-the-dates (which, as stated above, is not a requirement). We have not sent out the invitations yet, and our reply by date is July 10 which is a little less than a month before our wedding. Kind of an early reply by date, but oh welll! I was a little worried at first, because we are going to be sending them out so close to the reply by date, but my worries have been eased since we did send out save-the-dates so everybody already knows our wedding date.
Good Luck!

CLSchramm

STDs don't really help that much imo. We sent them out at about 10 months till...and i still...yes, STILL have a lady who "doesnt know yet" if they are coming. Seriously?? If it's not a priority to you, just don't come...really..it won't kill me, and it's two less mouths to feed. (lol, I think I have a bad attitude)

polichik

I'm assembling the invitations today for our September 5th wedding. Fortunately, I have a self-imposed waiting time, since I'm going to take them up to MInneapolis to get them hand-cancelled at the post office (I'm going to see my family for a week after I graduate). The PO here is crazy since it's a bigger city, and my mom's friends with the employees at our small-town PO. I figure they'll be more willing to cancel our vintage stamp array carefully I couldn't imagine them asking to hand-cancel stuff here. I'd get a look of death.

So, I'm feeling ya, and I'm glad that I can't really send them off any earlier. But really, I think 10 weeks is fine. I've heard 12-8 weeks as the guideline, even though I do think 12 weeks is too early. I think you'll be fine if you want to send them now.

akhensley81

I actually have the whole box of them in my car and it's still eating at me since I posted this early this morning... I think I'm going to bring them to the post office and get this off my chest. It's not like anyone's going to die if they get them this early.

Plus about a week ago, I got an invitation for a friend's wedding a week before mine, and a lot of the same people will be invited to both. So I'll be right on schedule.