Preacher Issue

beggingtobehisbride

Neither my fiance and I had a real church that we went to so when I knew a preacher that I thought would be a nice and interesting preacher to perform the ceremony, we went with him.  Well, the last two sessions of the counseling (which took forever to plan) have been truly awkward and uncomfortable.  Plus, I found out that he had asked my mother why he and I didn't just go get married.  Now I've already had some issues with the ceremony (not the marriage but wanting to have a ceremony although my fiance and I are helping alot and alot has been planned through family business connections) so hearing another person who doesn't seem to support the wedding and he is supposed to be our preacher, like okay?  So anyone have any ideas of what to do or have had a similar issue of not liking their preacher after they started counseling?

GeauxTigers17

I'm really, really confused about the entirety of this situation - why can't you find another preacher? And why does he have an issue with you two? Is he offended that you want him to marry you in his church, but you don't attend regularly? I'm sorry, I'm just having a hard time figuring out what the deal is. 

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[QUOTE]Neither my fiance and I had a real church that we went to so when I knew a preacher that I thought would be a nice and interesting preacher to perform the ceremony, we went with him.  Well, the last two sessions of the counseling (which took forever to plan) have been truly awkward and uncomfortable.  <strong>Plus, I found out that he had asked my mother why he and I didn't just go get married. </strong> Now I've already had some issues with the ceremony (not the marriage but wanting to have a ceremony although my fiance and I are helping alot and alot has been planned through family business connections) so hearing another person who doesn't seem to support the wedding and he is supposed to be our preacher, like okay?  So anyone have any ideas of what to do or have had a similar issue of not liking their preacher after they started counseling?
Posted by beggingtobehisbride[/QUOTE]

Um, I would have stopped right after I found that out. That is highly unprofessional and very scary. It almost seems like he likes you and is jealous he can't have you or something.

We were married in a church and didn't have any issues like that. But you might want to try asking for recommendations on your local board. The ladies there may be able to help you find a preacher that suits you & your FI's religious beliefs.

beckys67

Since you don't really attend church maybe you can find an ordained minister. I would also ask around or try a church that is more relaxed. Are you planning on getting married in a church? Maybe you should research it on the internet. Good luck.