Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)

ericksb

My FI and I are talking about the bouquet/garter toss. He is very traditional and has never even considered that they wouldn't be part of the reception. I, however, think they're awful for many reasons. 

So, tell me your stories. He needs to think about it, so maybe your wisdom will help us come to a decision.

Did you do a garter/bouquet toss? How did it go?

Any horror stories from weddings you've attended?

Did you decide to do something to replace this tradition?

sucrets4

We didn't do them.  I hate them.  DH didn't care.

We didn't replace it with anything...people have 'replaced' it with the anniversary dance, but I've seen those done independently of the bouquet/garter thing.

MissIntentional

we're not doing them, but i've never been to a wedding that didn't have them.

Brie2010

We're not doing them.  I think the garter toss is icky and the bouquet toss is mildly humiliating.

I've been to several weddings without them and nobody even noticed.

beatlesgirl25

The bouquet/garter tosses are definitely NMS. Instead we did an anniversary dance where all the couples were asked to get up for a slow dance.

One by one, the emcee/DJ would ask the couples to sit down based on being married for 1 year, 5 years, more than 10, and so on, and the last couple standing got a "toss bouquet" (mini version of bridal bouquet that many florists provide for free). And there's always the laugh where the DJ will say, "Any couple who's been married for less than an hour, please be seated," and the B&G have to go sit down.

katiewhompus

We did them.
The bouquet toss went really great. I told the Dj to tell all ladies (single and married) to participate and that they all needed to make a wish. If the bouquet was caught their wish was granted. Then I had tied about 12 mini bouquets into a big one, pulled a ribbon and let fly. My favorite pictures are the little girls running around picking them up and handing them to the older ladies

I really wish we didn't do the garter toss. About 10 minutes before we did it I just got really grossed out by the whole concept of someone else grabbing something that had been on my leg for the last 2 hours. The guys had fun with it and we got some great pictures, but if I replanned it would not be happening.

SarahSmile23

i've always thought they were fun. if your guests won't enjoy it, tell your FI to let it go and don't do them. if he really wants to include one of those and you don't have many single friends who would enjoy it, you could have a break-away toss bouquet and toss it to ALL the women, single or not. then it would split into a few pieces and a few of them will have pretty flowers to take home.

shellydiane820

we didn't do them.  I didn't want nick up in my dress in front of people and i always hated the bouquet toss.

Instead we did the anniversary dance and whoever was married the longest got the flowers.

sucrets4

Does anyone have the youtube link from Garter-Gate that was on here last year?

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Does anyone have the youtube link from Garter-Gate that was on here last year?
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

Oh barf, I gagged just thinking about it. I would have no idea how to find it. It was definitely before the format changeover.

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : Oh barf, I gagged just thinking about it. I would have no idea how to find it. It was definitely before the format changeover.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

i believe the bride removed it.  she was from the south florida/aa boards and didn't post here, so i don't  remember her name. that was pure gold, though.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : i believe the bride removed it.  she was from the south florida/aa boards and didn't post here, so i don't  remember her name. that was pure gold, though.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

Cliffs? I missed this debacle. Or is it one of those, "you had to be there to get it" kind of things?

sapphirebaby926

We did them and everyone enjoyed it. I've never been to a wedding that didn't have them though. It's pretty common among my friends and family so it's pretty much expected it's going to happen.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : Cliffs? I missed this debacle. Or is it one of those, "you had to be there to get it" kind of things?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

OHMIGOD Megs!

This girl posted this video that was 'so hilarious' and basically looked like her H was eating her out.  In front of grandma.

Ick.

A big fight ensued, it was great times.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : Cliffs? I missed this debacle. Or is it one of those, "you had to be there to get it" kind of things?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

It was basically like the groom performing cunnilingus on the bride in front of everyone, to this "sexy" music, and her spazzing out like it was the best thing ever. And then she AW'd the youtube video of it on some board here.

ETA: Jinx Sucrets! Dirty, dirty jinx. I need a shower now.

MeaghanandMichael

Wait, she posted her OWN garter video? Not just a link to a funny video? How idd I miss all this fun??!!!

MeaghanandMichael

And yes, I think my excessive use of punctuation is completely necessary in this case.

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]Wait, she posted her OWN garter video? Not just a link to a funny video? How idd I miss all this fun??!!!
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

no, she was proud of the vid and posted it on SFL and AA. it resulted in board wars. good times.

sucrets4

Yes!  It was a YouTube vid of her wedding and apparently she thought it was the funniest thing ever.

There was also a debate over whether we could see her underwear or not, but it was decided that it was a 2nd garter and not her naughty bits.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]And yes, I think my excessive use of punctuation is completely necessary in this case.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

I completely support the extraneous punctuation in this instance.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : It was basically like the groom performing cunnilingus on the bride in front of everyone, to this "sexy" music, and her spazzing out like it was the best thing ever. And then she AW'd the youtube video of it on some board here. ETA: Jinx Sucrets! Dirty, dirty jinx. I need a shower now.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Why are we surprised at this by now?  Twin.

maggyruth

At my aunt's step-daughter's reception...I had zero intention of going up there for the bouquet toss.  My aunt grabbed the mike from the band leader and paged me to the dance floor.  Completely mortifying.

Hate them. Vehemently.

However, the anniversary dance idea...I like way better.

MeaghanandMichael

oh.good.god.

Katiepoppy, can you find the link for us? Pretty please?

sucrets4

maggy - at my moh's wedding (before mine), they did the bouquet toss and my friends ordered that I go up there.  I was the only 'single' one of the bunch, but dating DH at the time. 

I hated them for it.

katiewhompus

Do not attempt to find it by searching youtube for "extreme" or "sexy" garter toss...*shudders*

It also makes me really sad that the top youtube videos right now are the block party riots at my old college. Seriously students? The annual block party does not need to end with 35 felony charges for assaulting officers and tear gas. It makes me not want to put my college on my resume, I feel like we lost a lot of cred in the professional world

mwhitson14

We didn't do either a bouquet toss or a garter toss, though my focking pushing MIL had a COW when I told her I had neither a garter nor a toss bouquet, so it wasn't happening. She tried to get me to toss my own flowers! Gah.

She was the only one that missed it All my single friends later were thanking me for not having it. And DH was faaar too embarassed to do the garter toss.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : Why are we surprised at this by now?  Twin.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

NO, it's because we're clearly on an OB together, duh!

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : NO, it's because we're clearly on an OB together, duh!
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

zomg, I forgot about that.  Duh.

And shhhhhhh.

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : NO, it's because we're clearly on an OB together, duh!
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

your ob should merge with the ob the nc trifecta and i have.

spinner84

I'm on the fence too. Apparently in Las Vegas (where I"m doing my wedding), everyone (married or not) participates. The part that scares me is the garter, although my FI swears he'll be tasteful with it. I think it's gross though.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : your ob should merge with the ob the nc trifecta and i have.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

Meh, can you be trusted?