electronic thank you's

sjgamble

Opinions needed on this idea:

My friend and I are debating the idea of thank you's and the 21st century.

in this day and age of all things electronic, where are we going such for traditional, hand-written thank-you notes (for WEDDINGS) of the past....

would you be okay with a personalized email or greeting card over a normally expected posted letter?

Hear me out -it's personalized and really sincere and the bride/groom attached a few personal photos to it for your own use.

Over the traditional ones where most people throw them out and waste a lot of postage and paer

ootmother2

absolutely not

AudgiePodge

No, I'd much rather receive a hand written thank you note.

aMrsin09

I'm with OOT an this one. 

Seems like a lazy brides way out.

WildRumpus

TACKY.

aMrsin09

And, given the font and bolding issus in your OP.... I'd stick to traditional TY's

sjgamble

Also to further clarify. not EVERYONE would receive them. those of older age (and perhaps tradition) would still get a handwritten note.

but seriously ladies - i'm sure we've all sat there struggling to write another note.

tell me you haven't considered this?

akhensley81

I agree with PPs... this seems pretty impersonal.

kellyjellybelly

No.  You can always include a photo in/on a handwritten thank you.

sjgamble

sorry i didn't mean to bold it !!! lol


my computer is being weird and i couldnt change it

kcscejal

I would prefer a traditional handwritten card.  I actually don't just throw them out.  I love thank you cards.  In this day and age with all things electronic I get so excited when I get real mail.  Although I suppose an e-thank you is better than no thank you a real thank you card is really best.

sjgamble

thanks

salt78

No way. Handwrite your thank you's.

kellyjellybelly

I honestly never considered it for wedding/shower thank yous.  For people coming out for my birthday, yeah sure.  For coming to my wedding?  Nope.

WildRumpus

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[QUOTE]Also to further clarify. not EVERYONE would receive them. those of older age (and perhaps tradition) would still get a handwritten note. but seriously ladies - i'm sure we've all sat there struggling to write another note. <strong>tell me you haven't considered this?</strong>
Posted by sjgamble[/QUOTE]

Nope. My parents taught me manners. Including how to write a proper thank you note.

sjgamble

further clarifiication. i did not do this.


i hand wrote 200+ for the wedding. not to mention the dozens for the shower. and didnt mind it all that much

its just an idea for her - possibly other friends.

to give my personal opinion i really wouldnt be offended by it. maybe thats just me. i still love a posted letter but a super personal email never offends me

PsyDet 2155

No.  Handwritten thank-you's are the best way to go.

GekkoK

I'd be pretty offended by an electronic ty note, especially after a wedding!

Evites for a fun party are one thing... emails as thank you notes are another. 

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]Also to further clarify. not EVERYONE would receive them. those of older age (and perhaps tradition) would still get a handwritten note. but seriously ladies - i'm sure we've all sat there struggling to write another note. tell me you haven't considered this?
Posted by sjgamble[/QUOTE]
Part of the beauty of the handwritten note is the struggle.

Of course I think it's safe to say that the idea of writing all those notes sucks ass, but not everything in life should be easy, do you know what I mean?

opalsky007

Absolutely not. And I don't find it a struggle to spend a whopping two minutes writing a note to thank someone for a gift on which they spent money and considerably more time shopping.

[Deleted User]

Nope, I had never really knew they were something that people considered being coming on TK.

Never IMO are they okay. You are always better to send a handwritten note, even if it is very short.

squirrly

Electronic ty's are really just not ok for something as big as a wedding gift. 

Are you asking on behalf of a friend wanting to do this for herself, or a friend wanting to do this as a business? 

Beachy730

Definitely not.  I don't care how "personal" you make them, I would always think the couple just had a standard format set up like a mad libs that you just filled in with the names and gift for who its for. 

pixiedust84

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[QUOTE]Definitely not.  I don't care how "personal" you make them, I would always think the couple just had a standard format set up like a mad libs that you just filled in with the names and gift for who its for. 
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

This exactly. Tell your friend not to do it.

mica178

Wow.   Now I've heard it all.

golden1215

ugh I would be super annoyed if I got an e-thank you.

and no, I never was sad about writing thank yous, I was happy to be doing them and reliving all the wonderful things my loved ones had given me.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]Definitely not.  I don't care how "personal" you make them, I would always think the couple just had a standard format set up like a mad libs that you just filled in with the names and gift for who its for. 
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
same

When it's handwritten, there could be a game of mad libs going on, but it's less.... obvious, I guess. With it being computerized like that, there is no way people won't think there is a standard greeting going on.

red1115

If I can take the time to handwrite a thank you note after a job interview, I sure as hell can handwrite a thank you to a friend who sent a wedding gift!!

Just because one has the capability to do something, doesn't mean they should. 

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: electronic thank you's : And that's exactly why they aren't acceptable.  They are a cop out.  An easy time-saver, and thanking someone for a gift should be generous, heartfelt, and individualized<strong>. I'm also against the generic "thank you photo" trend too, if you couldn't guess.</strong>
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
My friend did that and it feels like a cop-out. I can't explain it, but it really just looks like she might not have realized I was even there that day if not for the guest list.

Beachy730

I just got a TY card for my friends wedding from August and it had a wallet sized picture of them in it.  I can almost guarantee it was her dad's idea, since he is the first ever dad-zilla I've seen.  I'll probably throw it in the one random photo album we have, but it was just weird to me.  We did photo TY cards, but that didn't feel as AW to me as saying here, have a wallet sized wedding pic of me.  But maybe I'm biased.

crfische

Will the email be written in comic sans?

Take your time. This is important.