I am asking this on behalf of my daughter, who is taking the GRE in a week and going to school FT. We have not heard of this happening, and your thoughts are greatly appreciated.
Daughter and boyfriend were asked by his best friend and fiance's to be MOH and BM at their wedding in May. Daughter felt akward b/c she had only known this girl for three mos and soon found out it was b/c she has no friends/only child and her fiance is an only child so it is not like she can ask future SILS. Two other attendants are 15 yo cousins. Daughter said she was happy to do, but please understand she is in her sr year of college and her graduation is weekend before the Friday night wedding, and she lives about two hrs from where this wedding is. She is able to come to area about every four weeks. Friend and his fiance said this is fine.
Daughter also asked if dresses could be selected this summer, since it is hard for her to spare the 4 hr roundtrip drive during school year. Bride said fine, we will go shopping , I will get in touch, she never did, picked out dress, and daughter said whatever. Dress is at David's Bridal, which daughter was told it only has to be ordered by end of Feb to be in in time. Daughter is paying 100% of dress. Due to sizing, dress must have a minimum of $50 in alteration (dress is $139) and bride has decided to "Spruce up the dress" and add over $50 in extras, which she expects BM to pay for. Dress is now over $250.
Bride, who has not returned phone or FB messages by daughter for two months, called Sun and told daughter dress has to be ordered this weekend so all alterations can be made. Daughter, who just paid over $4000 in tuition, repeated what DB told her. Bride said, no you must order now (dress is not being discontinued_ and then stated that she has reconnected with old friend who she has asked to be MOH. She then makes comment that "This will be the most awesome day and we want you included but if you feel you will be too busy with school, we understand." So daughter, said "That's fine. I hope you understand why I have decided not to be in your wedding." Bride was shocked by this and became very upset since this will be "the most awesome day in daughter's life (seriously?)."
Daughter feels that she was replaced and has not been included and the convo about ordering the dress THIS weekend was the start of Bridezilla. Her boyfriend is still BM and Bride feels her pretty princess day is paramount in everyone's life. Bride also informed daughter that her gift to the girls is buying the shoes, from Payless when they go BOGO free. She also stated she expected her side to have manicure, pedicure and hair styled for wedding AT THEIR EXPENSE by salon she selects. Daughter has a two year MS program ahead of her and her goal is to make it all the way through without student loans so she is thrifty and plans ahead for special occassions/ purchases. She is estimating this wedding will cost her and her boyfriend over $650 for this most awesome day.
Daughter has been told Bride has contacted both her future MIL and her mother and BM's mom to see what she needs to do to get my daughter back in the wedding. I feel that my daughter just needs to just go as a guest because this behavior will likely not improve as the wedding gets closer. Her boyfriend is fine with her not being in wedding. What are your thoughts?