I've been around TK long enough to know that traditional head tables that do not include SOs are viewed by many people as a breach of etiquette.
I respect that viewpoint. I've stood up in weddings both where I have been seated next to my SO and where we have been separated. Overall, I preferred to be with my SO.
That being said, after much thought, I'm leaning toward having a traditional head table. Initially, i wanted a King's/Captain's table, but I think in my particular situation a head table makes some sense.
We have 4 BMs and 4 GM. All of the BMs are married. None of the GM would have a SO that would sit with them at the table (only one GM is married but his wife will have a newborn then and says she wouldn't feel comfortable at the head table). My FI thinks that a head table with SOs would look strange and rudely point out that his GM don't have dates. I don't really feel the same way as my FI, but I want to accommodate his feelings. Also, FI and I don't want a sweetheart table as we want to be surrounded by the WP.
I'm still a little unsure about our decision, but I'm wondering if anyone else is having a traditional head table and wants to share how they came to that decision.