Priest

Mrw218

I am having a traditional catholic ceremony. What am I supposed to invite the priest to? Rehearsal dinner? Reception? Both?

HockeyFan4

both.

brilibby4

I'm not positive but my guess would be both.

S6ix

Definitely both. If he comes, it would be proper for him to say a prayer before dinner.

NOLAbridealmost

Both.  Well, you could skip inviting him to the RD if he doesn't attend the rehearsal, but that would be pretty unusual for the priest to not preside over the rehearsal.

hoffse

Both

Mrw218

Okay new question-- Just didn't want to write a different post again....  When you write thank you notes, do you just send them to the people that came to the wedding or are you supposed to write ones to everyone you invited and say something like sorry you couldn't make it

S6ix

Send them to everyone who gave a gift and/or traveled very far to come to your wedding. E.g. I have an aunt and uncle coming from Norway. They may not give me a gift because they are already shelling out $$$ for the trip. I will definitely send them a thank you no matter what, though!

runpipparun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_priest-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:55c49b53-d570-43c6-b063-89244b5884cfPost:1c96b5d1-bdb6-4f2f-84e8-4abfe807ba6b">Re: Priest</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you notes are sent to people who sent gifts. If one gets a gift before the wedding: they open itimmediately, write a TY, and do not use the item until after the wedding. If one gets a gift at the wedding: they open it, write a TY, and can use it whenever. If one gets a gift after the wedding:  they open it, write a TY, and can use it whenever. <strong>If one wants to write a TY to everyone who came, they can.  But it is not necessary.  The reception  is the thank you for coming to the ceremony. If one wants to write a TY to everyone who couldn't make it, they can.  But it is not necessary</strong>.  The only reason it would be necessary is if the person sent a gift.  For that situation, see above.  :)
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

<div>I read on another thread that this is seen as "gift grabby," and you shouldn't write TY notes to those who didn't send a gift. As though you are subtly pointing out the fact that they didn't send you a tangible gift, <em>yet</em>...</div><div>
</div><div>Someone correct me if I'm wrong.</div>

Calypso1977

thank yous for attending are not necessary.  thank yous are to be written for gifts.