Adult only wedding

blackkat1919

My fiance and I would like our wedding and reception to be limited to adults only.  How can I inform guests politely that children are not invited?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Just don't invite the kids.

MRSBJS

Only put the names of the people invited on the envelope that you mail the invitation out in.

If they RSVP for kids, then you have to call them and tell them it's adult only.

But you do not put it on the invitation, anywhere.

dumdumfroggie

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[QUOTE]Only put the names of the people invited on the envelope that you mail the invitation out in. If they RSVP for kids, then you have to call them and tell them it's adult only. But you do not put it on the invitation, anywhere.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

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ootmother2

Don't invite children.

simple

chelseamb11

CRFB is wise
Speaking of CRFB, I feel like you haven't been around much. How are you?

cindyn9178

The invitation should be addressed to only those invited, so if the kids aren't invited, then their names wouldn't be on the invite. If people RSVP that they are bringing their kids, you will need to call them and explain kids aren't allowed. According to etiquette- you should never print who ISN'T invited on the invitation. That being said - it is really "saying" the same thing - since they aren't invited either way.

Also, I've seen 'adult reception to follow" on an invite, and never found it rude -but some people might, and it is an etiquette no-no.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]Hi Chels!  I'm good.  Just studying like crazy.  =)  I have been lurking a lot but posting is hard when I have so much to write down and study.  How are you?
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

I'm good! Kicking myself for agreeing to work over Christmas break, but hey money doesn't grow on trees right ;)

blackkat1919

Thanks a bunch, this helps a lot.  The RSVP idea with just names makes a lot of sense, I think I'll go with that!

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]The extra money will totally be worth it - for the most part :)
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

I hope so!

kmmssg

DD's wedding was no kids and we knew it would ruffle some feathers.  When we had family get togethers and someone asked about the wedding I always made sure to slip the no kid rule into the conversation.  A little word of mouth ahead of time can be very helpful.

lmgarlett

I have casually mentioned to the people who have children that we are not having any children under the age of 13 at the wedding.

Starfish0116

We are not having kids either. Honestly, while I'm not a huge fan of kids at a wedding, it really does have more to due with budget. We're just not inviting them. I've also made mention during general wedding talk saying, "We're being really strict with our budget. We're up to 125 with just immediate family and that's with having no kids." That sort of plants the seed that we're not having kids. Plus, I'm having our parents sort of casually mention it when talking about the wedding.

We are going to pay for babysitters and pizza, so when I sent out STD's w/ our website info I'll be including a section on the site about childcare. I'm also going to include a handwritten note in the invitations to those with kids of OOT guests letting them know that we will be providing babysitters and to please let me know if they plan to use them so we can get a final kid count.

kaitlyn&henry

We did not have children at our wedding for various reasons...we addressed the envelopes to those invited and, to really make sure everyone got it, on our RSVP card we had only the names of the people and a check box that said yes or no (obviously more eloquently said) next to their names leaving no room for adding anyone.

It only upset one of my aunts...and i kindly explained our reasoning. She wasnt trhilled, and some people wont be but its your perogative

rebarobert2012

Simply address the invitations only to the people invited.  So, just don't include children's names on the invites.

Just be prepared that some people may not be able to attend if they can't bring their children.

Kitty+Nuke

I'm addressing the invitations to just the adults and also on my wedding website, I have information of our "Adults only reception will held at (site) . Dinner, drinks and dancing!