Late invite

Ballet513

I was going over my guest list with FI last night and it turns out we have a bit of wiggle room so I have decided to invite my sisters sister in law and her husband to the wedding. I am friends with her but not close friends. I wouldn't call her and ask her to dinner just the two of us but I have hung out with her and my sister dozens of times. Also if I called her and needed a favor she would be there for me. FI and I have been out to bars/dinners with her and her hubby in small groups with my sisters and her friends. We were just out with them last week for my sisters bday and had so much fun with this couple. Anyway I am definitely inviting them to the wedding, its not til August so invites won't go out until June. My question is with the shower, its May 19th and she knows all the details of it since her and my sister are so close and my sister is planning it (MOH). I told my sister I was inviting her to the wedding and she wants to invite he to the shower. I'm afraid she will be offended at the late invite but my sister thinks that she will be so excited that she's invited and probably cry because she'll be touched by the invite. I have known her for over 10 years so I met her when I was in HS (she's about 10 years older than me). What do you guys think? Should my sister invite her to the shower even though she will know its a last minute invite?

Legu

Definitely still invite her. She'll be so happy to come she won't even realise it's a "late" invite.

jwdds2013

Better late than never!!!! Invite her! 

LeiselEB

You dont have to invite every female guest to the shower. If you want to invite her you could but if I were her I would probably be just as happy to not get invited to the shower since you said you aren't all that close.

aragx6

As long as you invite her ASAP that's still 2 weeks notice which isn't too bad. Leisel's definitely right that not every woman needs to be invited, but it sounds as though she'd like to attend.

kfras

I agree on a lot of these. Definitely invite her if you want her there. And some people do not invite every guest to the shower. I am inviting most of my female guests to mine, with the exception of FI's friends/coworker's wives and girlfriends who I do not know at all. But I have recently been to a bridal shower where only the BP, and close family members and friends were invited, but not everyone. About 35-40 out of 75 women who were invited to the wedding.

With that being said, there are plenty of oversights in shower invitations. I had to pass my guest list onto my MOH and I told her if she wanted to take off OOT relatives she can (My mother insisted on inviting them even though they will not be able to make it, because if it were her she said she would still want to know what the shower was taking place). And it has been quite a pain getting a shower list from FMIL since she says since the wedding is still 6+ months away, she has STILL  not finalized her guest list... since the wedding invitations don't go out until 8 weeks before she seems to think she can just add whoever she wants at last minute.Yeah.

So I am sure sister's SIL will not take it personally if she is last minute invited. I would tell your sister to inform her that she doesn't need to feel obligated to come, but if she would like to come you would love to have her there. She can always say she made the shower guest list off of a rough draft wedding list you had sent her months/weeks ago and that she was unaware until now that she is invited to the wedding. I am sure sister's SIL will come and see it as no big deal!