Which comes first?

hespera888

Okay, so we are engaged, only a few know at this point, will someone please make sure I have this in correct order?!

1.Engagement Announcements
2.Engagement Party Invites
3.Save the Dates
4.Official Wedding Invitation (with response card and directions)..

Okay so is this right????

And we can put where we are registered at on our Engament Party Invites and then Wedding Invites as well...

Thanks!!!

snwilson0416

Well, I think that is the right order but you don't throw your own engagement party. And you definitely do not put your registry information on invites.

crfische

First, we change your font color to normal.

Second, the answer to your question is the Chicken.

Rosie109

Not true its the egg.

xyrius

The pink is hurting my eyes. 

SNWilson is correct.  You shouldn't throw your own engagement party - and registry info has no place on your invite.  (or engagement party invites either). 

mgietler76

I'm gonna have to say the chicken.

Also you do not throw your own engagment party and you never include registry info on any invites.

redheadfsu

1. You do not throw your own engagement party.
2. You do not put your registry info on your wedding invites.

banana468

I think you may be a bit off on what is and isn't acceptable etiquette:


1.  Engagement announcements should not be sent.  You can put one in the paper but sending engraved announcements is improper etiquette.

2. If someone offers to throw you an engagement party then he/she will send the invitations.  Engagement parties are thrown for and not by the bride or groom and usually within a few months of the engagement.

3. Save The Dates are sent 6-9 months prior to the wedding to those you know will be invited to the wedding.

4. Wedding invitations are sent 8 weeks or so ahead of the wedding to those you're inviting.

Registry information belongs in NONE of the above.  Many let is slide when the shower hostess puts the registry information in the shower invitation because the purpose of the shower is to shower the bride with gifts.  Beyond that, the couple should not print where they are registered in anything they mail.  You can include a link to your wedding website with registry information on there.  That's it though.

crfische

3. YOU DO NOT POST IN PINK
d) Blue Moon

brilibby4

Please use the provided font in the future-it is much easier to read. 

Your order is correct but you should not be throwing yourselves an engagement party.  Also, please do not include your registry info in the wedding invites, it is considered gift grabby and rude. 

squirrly

Engagement Announcement can go to the paper any time you wish.

If somebody wants to throw you an E-party, they'll do so.  Not something you should do for yourself, so you don't need to worry about it.  If they do throw one, you likely won't have registered by then, since you don't really want to do that more than 6 - 8 months before the wedding, for fear of things being discontinued.

STDs should be sent 6 - 8 months before the wedding.

Invites should be sent 6 - 8 WEEKS before the wedding.  RSVP date should be no more than 4 weeks before the wedding.  Registry information should never, ever be included in the wedding invitation.

If someone elects to throw you a shower, they can include the registry info there, but that's IT.  No other invites get registry info in or on them. 

And, please, stick with black font.

xyrius

i really am dying to know what the blue moon reference is.  i'd like to laugh too

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]First, we change your font color to normal. Second, the answer to your question is the Chicken.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
There you go, being all useful again.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]I think you may be a bit off on what is and isn't acceptable etiquette: 1.  Engagement announcements should not be sent.  You can put one in the paper but sending engraved announcements is improper etiquette. 2. If someone offers to throw you an engagement party then he/she will send the invitations.  Engagement parties are thrown for and not by the bride or groom and usually within a few months of the engagement. 3. Save The Dates are sent 6-9 months prior to the wedding to those you know will be invited to the wedding. 4. Wedding invitations are sent 8 weeks or so ahead of the wedding to those you're inviting. Registry information belongs in NONE of the above.  Many let is slide when the shower hostess puts the registry information in the shower invitation because the purpose of the shower is to shower the bride with gifts.  Beyond that, the couple should not print where they are registered in anything they mail.  You can include a link to your wedding website with registry information on there.  That's it though.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

Listen to Banana. PP are all correct, but she went into great detail for you.

lyndausvi

Never did 1 or 2.

The order of 3 and 4 sounds right, I mean who sends out a STD after the invitation?

topcatiom

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[QUOTE]  RSVP date should be no more than 4 weeks before the wedding.  Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

i didn't know this bit!

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]Never did 1 or 2. The order of 3 and 4 sounds right,<strong> I mean who sends out a STD after the invitation?</strong>
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Yeah flip flopping those two wouldn't really make sense. And my answer is the chicken.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]First, we change your font color to normal. Second, the answer to your question is the Chicken.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
I was going to say both of these things.

crfische

Right? Because everyone knows it was the chicken.

vallyhoo

::searches color chart for "normal"::

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]::searches color chart for "normal"::
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]
well, actually, everyone knows "normal" is "white." so I guess fish should've said "not pink."

crfische

You guys are SO difficult.

jcunningham23

Chicken or egg? hmm, my good friend Luna Lovegood would say..."Well then, I think the answer is that a circle has no begining".


Sorry, couldn't resist. :P

mandysmear

the egg comes first.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]Never did 1 or 2. The order of 3 and 4 sounds right, I mean <strong>who sends out a STD after the invitation?</strong>
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

People who forgot to include herpes with their wedding invites?

laladypoet

and how could you send out engagement announcements after the engagement party?

lharri12

didn't scientists recently announce that they think it was the egg?!

hespera888

wow incredibly rude responses from many of people. These boards are put here to ask advice.

Thank you, I am well aware that I do not throw my own engagement party, I was simply referring to when everything at what all needs to be mailed.

And actually according to Carley it is perfectly acceptable to put registry info on engagement party card, it's just not mandatory to bring a gift!

And yes in every invitation I have ever received it lets me know where the bride is registered so ppl know where to go.

Thanks for all the 'advice".

squirrly

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[QUOTE]wow incredibly rude responses from many of people. These boards are put here to ask advice. Thank you, I am well aware that I do not throw my own engagement party, I was simply referring to when everything at what all needs to be mailed. And actually according to Carley it is perfectly acceptable to put registry info on engagement party card, it's just not mandatory to bring a gift! And yes in every invitation I have ever received it lets me know where the bride is registered so ppl know where to go. Thanks for all the 'advice".
Posted by hespera888[/QUOTE]

This post was FULL of random jokes, dear.  Nobody was rude.

And, registry info DOES NOT GO in the invitations, except shower invites.  Period.  I can't help what people have done before - they were wrong.  It looks gift grabby.