Wishing Well Question

markandtiffany

I'm thinking of printing this poem and sending it with my invitations. Is this tacky?

 Many of our guests have enquired
For a gift idea to be inspired
We have enough dishes and towels for two
So we have a favour to ask of you.
A wishing well we thought would be great
(But only if you wish to participate)
A gift of money, an amount you can afford
Would be really appreciated, you can be assured
At our reception, drop your gift in the well
Then make a wish, but shhh… don’t tell!

We hope our request is okay
For this would help make our day
Then when we choose something new
We can say it was all thanks to you
And in return for your kindness, we are sure,
That you will get what you wished for.

[Deleted User]

Yes. Very tacky. Mentioning gifts in the invitation is a bad idea. Poems are a bad idea.  Wishing wells are a bad idea too. Don't do it.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]Is this tacky? 
Posted by markandtiffany[/QUOTE]
yes

It's not ok to mention gifts on the wedding invitations, especially ones that dictate what the gift should be. A cutesy poem doesn't make it ok.

You can use word of mouth, though. Your parents can sorta "hint" that you're set on homegoods for now.

And although you have every thing you need, is there nothing you could upgrade? Because not every one likes to give cash gifts. But you don't have to register for anything, that's just a random suggestion from me. :)

Anyway, I would leave out the poem and not mention gifts.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I'm thinking of printing this poem and sending it with my invitations. Is this tacky?   Many of our guests have enquired For a gift idea to be inspired We have enough dishes and towels for two So we have a favour to ask of you. A wishing well we thought would be great (But only if you wish to participate) A gift of money, an amount you can afford Would be really appreciated, you can be assured At our reception, drop your gift in the well Then make a wish, but shhh… don’t tell! We hope our request is okay For this would help make our day Then when we choose something new We can say it was all thanks to you And in return for your kindness, we are sure, That you will get what you wished for.
Posted by markandtiffany[/QUOTE]
Never put anything about gifts in an invitation.
Never ask guest for money.

tidetravel

This is a joke, right?

If you have to ask, the answer is probably yes.

shannonalise

Very, very, very tacky. How would you know how much each guest gave, or who gave what? How can you properly thank your guests when they're contributing anonymously to a pool of cash?

If I received this from the B&G on anything - not even the invitation - I would feel that the entire focus and purpose of the reception was now on getting cash.

Don't do it. Please.

Lenore2010

Wishing wells should be illegal, along with dollar dances.

Poems do not make them okay. 

Personally, I think invites mentioning gifts-particularly money should be thrown in the trash.

Yes, we are all being pretty blunt, but believe me heed the advice you are reading here unless you want to look like a complete butt to all of your guests. These are the things people talk about behind your back for years to come.

markandtiffany

LOL...okay ladies...thanks for the input.

ohwhynot

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[QUOTE]LOL...okay ladies...thanks for the input.
Posted by markandtiffany[/QUOTE]

Now <em>that</em> is a breath of fresh air.  Stick around!

SparrowSong

Issue of demanding cash gifts aside as I just don't have the energy right now...

What is it that makes people think rhyming words somehow distract from what the words are saying? Would typing "We want money." on an invite be tacky? Then so is the cute little poem saying the exact same thing. The need to make poems for everything wedding related is something that has baffled me for years. The poems on bathroom baskets or buckets of free flip-flops kill me. A lot of people must think poetry is SOOOOOO classy and sophisticated.

LD1970

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[QUOTE]I'm thinking of printing this poem and sending it with my invitations. Is this tacky?   Many of our guests have enquired For a gift idea to be inspired We have enough dishes and towels for two So we have a favour to ask of you. A wishing well we thought would be great (But only if you wish to participate) A gift of money, an amount you can afford Would be really appreciated, you can be assured At our reception, drop your gift in the well Then make a wish, but shhh… don’t tell! We hope our request is okay For this would help make our day Then when we choose something new We can say it was all thanks to you And in return for your kindness, we are sure, That you will get what you wished for.
Posted by markandtiffany[/QUOTE]
Awful.

beatlesgirl25

I find the poem irritating because it's brazen enough to be asking for money in the first place, but then trips over itself to be like, "only if you're okay with it" and "you can participate if you like." If you really felt that way, you wouldn't be doing a wishing well or poem.

eastunder1

Man, I WISH someone would do this for a wedding that I'm invited too.  Then we would have something to mock them for for the rest of their lives.

J&K10910

I really wish I understood why people think that making something into a poem suddenly makes it not a bad idea, or even worse--makes it cute.  Like I said last night, I think the poem makes it even worse. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Man, I WISH someone would do this for a wedding that I'm invited too.  Then we would have something to mock them for for the rest of their lives.
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

<div>I've never even seen registry info on an invitation. If I got one of this I'm not sure if I'd gasp or cry or laugh really, really hard.</div>

Lenore2010

Hey all, the OP gets it and gets it with grace! Let's give her a hand! Very cool.

coreybride127

I don't know what planet people are from where this would be okay. Plus, several grammar and spelling mistakes are in the poem.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]I don't know what planet people are from where this would be okay. Plus, several grammar and spelling mistakes are in the poem.
Posted by coreybride127[/QUOTE]
Of course the grammer is going to be off, it's a poem, lol. I'm not seeing any spelling errors, though. :/

Anyway, she really nice about the replies, which is really refreshing. Someone in her life probably told her this was okay and she believed them. Now she knows better. :)

trishinbanff

It wasn't on the invite but on the card that suggested 2 accommodations:  "A wishing well wedding" I had to look up what it meant!  I had an idea but could not believe it!
now they are getting a toaster!

aprovencher21

Why don't you just sell tickets to the reception?? Holy hell......

thesuninherhead

Bar one (and only family who we influenced through our discussions on not feeling right doing this!), every wedding invitation I've received has had one of these enclosed. It's very common here.