Can I invite...?

macintoshmonster

I am mother of the bride.  My significant other is close to his deceased wife's sister and brothers.  I have been invited to numerous parties and special occasions given by them.  I am also invited to the upcoming wedding and shower for his brother's son and fiance.  Is it appropriate to invite these three couples?  This is my daughter's second marriage and none of these people came to first marriage.

Mrs.B6302007

Are you paying for the reception or is your daughter?

sarabellam

Does your daughter have a relationship with your significant other and his deceased wife's siblings? Could she even pick them out of a lineup?

mocha beans

I would ask your daughter.  How does she feel about them, does she have any kind of relationship with them?  If you're hosting the reception, then you can invite whoever you want (but it gets some bride's annoyed when they have to not invite some of their friends because the parents invite all of their own friends).  Will having these three couples take space away from some of the bride and grooms' friends?  I would take that into account.

Marrin713

My fiance is still close to some members of his ex-W's family, but they are not being invited - nor did they expect to be.  Ex-wife is different than a deceased spouse and this is your daughter's wedding and not yours so I may be comparing apples to oranges.  Just my .02

thesuninherhead

I would say that this depends entirely on how your daughter and her FI feel about the situation. Certainly, I don't see a problem with inviting your partner's deceased wife's family members, if that is what you're asking- but given that the wedding is your daughter's and not yours or mine, I'd be discussing this with her rather than a bunch of internet randoms.

damaless

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_can-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:59777a58-91b9-4238-81b6-903b567e0a1fPost:c9e456ea-9ca5-44a3-b217-63675a4df57a">Can I invite...?</a>:
[QUOTE] I have been invited to numerous parties and special occasions given by them.  I am also invited to the upcoming wedding and shower for his brother's son and fiance.
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</div><div>In my opinion, this is not equivalent to them being invited to your daughter's wedding.  Here's why:  Of course your husband is invited to his own nephew's wedding, and you are his wife, so of course you are invited as well.  If they had also invited your daughter and her FI, then I would say that makes it reasonable that they be invited to her wedding as well.  But if they don't even know each other, or have met only once or twice, I know if I were your daughter I would be somewhat annoyed that you wanted to invite people I had nothing to do with.

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squirrly

I think it should really be up to your daughter.  It's her wedding, after all.