Hey all! I am mainly a lurker but I felt it necessary to vent just a little. You should know that I am a pretty laid back bride. I kind of just go with the flow with everything. My goal is for everyone to have a great time including me and my FI.
Anywho, the one stress of the whole dang thing is my FMIL. I have been with my FI for almost 9 years so I know her and her family. I always figured she would be easy going when it came time to plan our wedding. Not so much. I asked her for her "must invite" list. She sends me a list of 60 people (uh we were only going to invite 100...total)...half I don't know and my FI hasn't seen most since he was like five. So, with her help, we chopped the list in half. Solved that issue.
Next, hair and makeup. For her daughters wedding she got her hair and makeup done and she wants to get it done for mine. Fine. Makes sense. I am cool with that. That is until she asks where I am getting mine done, calls the salon, and books appointments for her and her daughter (who is not in the wedding so not sure why she needs it done but whatever). This would be all well and good except she took my appointment times that I needed (I was still working things out with the salon at the time). Not sure why she had to go with the salon I was going with when we weren't all going to go together. She could have just used the same person that she used for her daughters wedding.
To fix this problem I decided to have the hair and makeup person come to my house and we would all have our hair/makeup done there (worked out better time wise). Then my FMIL asked if she could get a trial done. Ummm, no. I have been to and been in several weddings and I have never gotten a trial done. Isn't that just for the bride? I told her since we are having them come to the house only the bride can get a trial (which is true cause that is what they told me). She wasn't super pleased but whatever. Now she wants fake eyelashes, etc and wants to know if the make up artist supplies these or if she needs to bring her own. I am like really lady, fake eyelashes, I am not even getting fake eyelashes!
Then I hear through the grapevine that she is going to wear a red dress. This would be semi-ok with me if it at all went with the color scheme (purple and greens) but it doesn't...at all! My florist told me that my FMIL would stick out like a sore thumb in a red dress and every picture she is in all eyes would be drawn to her. I am not someone who likes attention but I feel like in my wedding pictures my FI and I should be in the spotlight, not his mother in a red dress. I figured since I told her my color scheme she would have tried to not coordinate but at least go with it.
Finally, I receive an email this morning that so and so can't make it to the wedding so can we replace them with this person and a guest. No we can't. All invites have been addressed and we have hit our limit on people. We would still need to invite the first couple because they were told they were invited and then we would have to invite this new couple. What happens if the first couples plans change and they can come? So needless to say I am letting FI break the news that this will not happen. Just because people can't come doesn't mean you fill in the spot with other people (hello, B-list anyone)
I know these are all stupid little things that really don't matter in the grand scheme but little annoyances can add up!
Thanks for letting me vent...I feel much better now!