Uninvited Guests

princess0711

Ok, maybe I'm just getting frustrated and need to rant but please let me know if you have any advise!

Here's the background, FI and I live on the west cost, parents live central.  Wedding is being held where my parents live.  We have a room that holds 120 people, we are inviting 60 people each.

Here's where it gets *special* we both have HUGE families (my mom has 10 brothers and sisters), he has his mom's family, his dad's family and his step mom (who raised him)'s family who also has like 7 brothers and sisters

So FI & I decided to invite only aunts and uncles and close cousins (he has 1, I have 8 mainly because my cousins live in the same city as us and we see them regularly (I work with one))

we both have a limit of 60 people so I am inviting less friends

any ways FI called FMIL last weekend and a cousin was over and FI said very clearly we have discussed it again and there just isn't room and FMIL said "ok, well I think they are going to crash the wedding then"  WTF ...  Any advise on how to handle this situation ... our room holds 120 people, I don't think it's fair to put an extra 20-30 people in there because they want to crash it, and then fine I'd like to invite the 25 cousins I had to cut from my list!


Any help would be appreciated.

jasmineh7777

I doubt they really will crash it. I think you could plainly say, "We really appreciate that you want to come, but our venue/caterer will not be able to accomodate any extra guests. I'd love to  get together at xyz time and catch up."

skyler1108

I know to some this may sound a bit extreme but you could always hire a security guard to work the door and only let people who are on the list in. I used to work for a private sercurity company and it was not that uncommon for people to hire a guard or two to work the door of their reception to prevent crashers. If hiring a guard is out of your budget you can always ask a friend or family member to work the place card table to look out for crashers as well.

LD1970

"Well, that's their prerogative, as long a they understand they won't be getting chairs or food."