Splitting up couples

Ballet513

Hi ladies, I know that splitting up couples is generally not okay. However, my wedding party is made up of 3 couples and 4 "singles". I am having a traditional church wedding and am having all the groomsmen and best man stand at the front of the church and am having the MOH and bridesmaids walk down the aisle alone and then after the ceremony the bridesmaids will file down the aisle each with a groomsman. My problem is that my MOH's husband is in the wedding party as a groomsman (not the best man) and the best man's wife is in the wedding party as a bridesmaid (not the MOH). My initial thoughts were to have the MOH and best man walk together down the aisle to exit the church and their spouses walk with different partners. This would split up two couples, at first I really didn't think it mattered but I read a similar post on another board where it said splitting up couples this way is not okay. Luckily everybody in my wedding party knows eachother and is friends. Its only for a second that the couples will be split. Is it odd though for married people to be walking with other wedding party members when their spouse is in the party too? I figured when the wedding party is announced at the reception the MOH and best man would be announced together as a couple ("matron of honor xx and groomsman xx") But what do we do for pictures? When we do pictures of the whole wedding party should they stand with their spouses or their temporary partners? I'm 95% sure that neither couple will mind being split up for the walk out of the church (but I will ask them just to be sure) Like I said they will be announced together at the reception, and as far as seating goes we are doing a sweet heart table and then seating WP members where it makes sense so they will be seated as a couple with their respective friends/family scattered about the room. I'm just unsure about pictures...I'm pretty sure it would be weird looking at pictures of my married WP members standing with different partners right? I'm probably over thinking but any feedback would be appreciated

AdeleDazeem

I think that if anyone gets in a huff about not walking down the aisle with their husband and instead "some strange and terrifying man," they need to get over themselves. 

Pictures are really your call.  The photographer will probably order people the way they look best, but they also might default to what you say.  I'd leave it like it was in the wedding ceremony because I'm lazy like that :-)

specialk84

One of my BMs is married to H's best man. The BMs walked down the aisle alone, then recessed with the GM. The MOH and best man walked together, and they entered the reception together (they weren't announced, since none of them wanted that). 

For pictures, the photographer arranged people so they'd look nice. I just looked, and the two of them are next to each other in most of the group shots.

banana468

I was a BM for BIL and SIL's wedding where DH was the BM.  I walked down the aisle with a GM and even into the reception we walked in together.

However for photos I was often with DH - particularly for family events.

I wasn't asked to have sex with the GM - just to link arms.

mkrupar

You're overthinking this. Especially the photos. Your photographer will arrange people where they feel best.

NOLAbridealmost

My only thought is that the couples might want to be posed together for pictures because it's always nice to get a good professional photo of you with your SO.    I would personally be thinking "WTF??....." if I was getting posed right and left with Joe-Blow and meanwhile my H is being posed with some other person just because it "looked better."  

The aisle thing is no big deal. 

ajmom2two

I think people have an issue with splitting couples up at dinner with a head table. I don't think its an issue for walking down the aisle. I wouldn't worry about them not walking in with their spouse that's also in the WP.

Meegles4

AJMom is right. The splittling up couples thing mostly applies to dinner seating.

Walking down the aisle with someone else is fine. As is being introduced with separate people (i.e. you're correct the MOH and BM would be announced together because the BM is the MOH's escort).

For photos, I think it's OK to have people stand with their "escorts" who aren't necessarily their SOs. If you did that, it's a nice idea to also offer to have your photographer take a photo or two of your WP with their correct SOs so they have some memento if they want. Or, ask your photographer not to do couple shots at all. For all of our group WP shots, the WP just stood around us, they weren't organized into escort couples.

When it comes to the reception, be nice and seat the SOs together. This is where I think they can split from whoever their escort is. This would look a bit different than the traditional head table, but would be the kind thing to do for your WP.

AbbeyS2011

My MOH is married to one of the groomsmen, and H wanted his brother as BM, so they were split up for a few minutes - neither of them minded.

I did pair up my niece with her Dad - I thought that would be sweet, and we got some great pics. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

You could have them walk out and be introduced alone, too. I DO think it's kind of weird to pair people up who have nothing to do with each other except for the fact that they're in your wedding.

But I wouldn't be offended by it. My husband walked in and out with someone who wan't me (I wasn't in the wedding party) at a wedding last weekend and it was NBD.