Bridal Shower

mrsalbee

I have a slight dilemma:

I am having a small ceremony, mainly because the venue I want will only hold up to 50 people. Then we are having a big reception.

I did not want to have a bridal shower, but my friends and my MIL & SIL are being persistant with wanting to throw me a bridal shower. I told them that if they wanted to give me a bridal shower, that it's fine but there's only one problem....

I do not think it is in good taste to invite all of these women, or whoever they invite, to the bridal shower (where they are basically supposed to give you gifts), and then not be invited to the ceremony!

Am I the only one who sees that if someone is invited to the bridal shower should be invited to the ceremony?!

Please let me know what you think...

marisah83

I might be kind of hurt too if I was invited to a reception but not a ceremony, but that is just me.  Do guests already know that they might not attend the ceremony?

I would only invite people from the ceremony to the shower. 

Mrs.B6302007

WHo is invited to the ceremony?  How many?

AdeleDazeem

I'm floating around in this world as well.  We are having 13 people at our ceremony but a larger at home reception. 

My mother is adamant about a shower.  I believe my step mother is, as well.  I am super uncomfortable about a shower and really want to decline, but it will hurt their feelings.  I'm trying to get them to understand why I'm uncomfortable instead.

I wish I had better words of advice for you.

mrsalbee

only the immediate family like parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts & uncles. In my family, that will take up all of those slots pretty quickly!

My MIL is only concerned about me getting gifts and money...not what I am about. I don't like being the center of attention and the thought of people getting together to buy me things and it's not even my birthday...weird! haha

marcstacey

You have a lot of time before the wedding.  Things may change, your guest list for the reception/party may change, and the shower will probably be a few months before the wedding so hold off on deciding anything just yet.  I do think it is in poor taste to invite people that are not invited to the ceremony...maybe just tell your MIL and SIL that you would like close family to be invited (meaning the people that are invited to the actual ceremony)?  Bottom line is this is your day and your occasion.  Just make sure they actually tell you when the shower is, unlike my FMIL and FSIL.  Haha!