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Can I wear black to an October wedding?

I figured I'd ask before I went out and bought this gorgeous black dress I found today.  I don't care if anyone wears black to my wedding in June, but that doesn't mean others won't considered rude.  So, what do you think ladies?  Is it okay to wear black to a wedding or should I keep shopping?

Re: Can I wear black to an October wedding?

  • I don't see why it would be a problem.
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  • Both my mom and my FMIL are wearing black dresses to my wedding (Oct. 3)

    I don't think it matters.....sometimes the bridesmaids' dresses ARE black.
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  • My wedding was last October and all of the BMs and mothers wore black.  Obviously I think it's fine :) 
  • A lot of people wore black to my wedding.  I would never even think twice about it.
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    [QUOTE]Both my mom and my FMIL are wearing black dresses to my wedding (Oct. 3) I don't think it matters.....sometimes the bridesmaids' dresses ARE black.
    Posted by jakstr0808[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, you can't assume that just because you are wearing black you won't match the bridesmaids.  I am getting married in October and would not think twice about somebody wearing black.
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    It's fine. The rule about not wearing black to weddings is kind of archaic at this point. It's gone the way of not wearing white shoes after Labor Day.
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    [QUOTE]A lot of people wore black to my wedding.  I would never even think twice about it.
    Posted by saschaduran[/QUOTE]

    <div>What she said. </div>
  • I think most women wore black to my wedding- and the wedding I went to last weekend pretty much everyone we went with wore black. IMO the whole "don't wear black to a wedding" doesn't exist anymore. Wear it.
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  • I know the bridesmaids dresses are purple, so I do know I won't match!  I feel the same way ya'll do but I certainly don't want to offend anyone so I figured I'd ask!  Thanks!!

  • My mother wore a black dress to my wedding.  She looked beautiful.  I wore a black dress to my cousin's wedding.  I looked good.

    And why is black depressing?  I don't even wear black to funerals nowadays.
  • Like 1% of me thinks that it's a little off putting to wear black to a wedding, but I would totally do it. Unless the BM dresses are black. In which case, I wouldn't be able to wear my black cocktail dress, which kinda sucks.

    Anyway, I wore navy blue to a wedding last weekend, so I think you're good. (And the BM dresses were black.)
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  • Honestly, if you told me I couldn't wear black to a wedding, I wouldn't know what to wear!
  • I know what you mean merymac... I actually did wear a black bridesmaids dress in a friend's wedding so I think that taboo is on it's way out.  But at the same time (like 1% for me too) I worry if it's acceptable.  Buuut, if all of you are doing it too, then I guess I'm okay lol
  • I think it's fine. Black is elegant! 

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    [QUOTE]I know what you mean merymac... I actually did wear a black bridesmaids dress in a friend's wedding so I think that taboo is on it's way out.  But at the same time (like 1% for me too) I worry if it's acceptable.  Buuut, if all of you are doing it too, then I guess I'm okay lol
    Posted by mkovacik[/QUOTE]

    I remember my mom being absolutely horrified when a friend's brother's wedding color was black and the BM dresses were black a little over 20 years ago. But people wear black to so many things now! My mom loves wearing color, too, so that's probably a factor. Even she wouldn't care these days, though.
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  • I guess I'm weird, I still wouldn't wear black to a wedding.  I know people wear black to everything, but I think this is the one time that I don't like it.
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  • My BM dresses are black.  They were supposed to be blue, but we couldn't find a single shade of blue that looked good on all of them.
    FI was a little shocked when I told him the girls are wearing black.  When I pointed out that all the men are wearing black tuxes he agreed it would be ok.
    My mom and FMIL are both wearing black as well.  
    My mom was a little worried about wearing the BM color, but she isn't going to match them so I told her it was fine.  My FSIL and I picked the dress for my FMIL.  FSIL showed her the dress and she loved it.

    I really don't care if anyone else or everyone else wears black either.  I doubt anyone else is going to show up in the same dress as the BM or be confused for them.  
    If other men show up in tuxes or black suits I doubt they would be confused for GM.

    My rule of thumb about my attire as a guest is to think of the bride.  If you think she would be offended, skip it.  If she wouldn't mind, then who cares if her Great Aunt Muriel likes it or not?  I think most women now won't be too concerned.
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  • You can wear black to a wedding at any time... unless that time is 1950 or something.

    Re black BMs dresses -- I would still wear black even I knew the BMs were in black. The BMs and mothers wore black at my first wedding -- and so did about half the other women. At least in the northeast, that's pretty much the norm.
  • My grandmother is wearing black to my wedding.  I think my FI was a little scandalized (I think in his mind, grandmothers only wear black to funerals), but the dress has pink trim and makes her look good, so he'll get over it.

    I can't imagine many people having a problem with wearing a tasteful black dress to an evening function any time of the year.  Maybe you'd stand out at a baby shower brunch, but these days, so many brides choose black as one of their wedding colors.
  • I see people wearing black to weddings all the time...
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    [QUOTE]You can wear black to a wedding at any time... unless that time is 1950 or something. Re black BMs dresses -- I would still wear black even I knew the BMs were in black. The BMs and mothers wore black at my first wedding -- and so did about half the other women. At least in the northeast, that's pretty much the norm.
    Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]

    I didn't this last time because the BMs all wore dresses of their choice. So I really WOULD have looked like a BM in any black cocktail or tea-length dress. Plus there were 6 of them.
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  • The only thing I would say is make sure the dress is not culturally offensive.  I had a friend who just went to an Indian wedding and wore a black dress.  She was mortified to find out when she got there that everyone was wearing brightly colored clothing and black is viewed as a mourning color, i.e., you would never wear black at a wedding.
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