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S/O-Bridesmaids Children

Because I'm curious and don't want to theadjack. 

I have a BM whose son will be a year old by the time of the wedding. She's not breastfeeding or anything. 

If we're only having children of immediate family at the wedding, do I have to include her son?
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Re: S/O-Bridesmaids Children

  • I would say no, but you'll probably want to talk to your BM about it -- if it were a dealbreaker for her not to bring her kid, would you let her?

    As a guest I'd have no problem with a clear cut off line of immediate family and children of the wedding party if you do decide to go that route.
    Lizzie
  • My MOH is married to our GM.  They left their little guy (about 1) with grandma that night and enjoyed a night out. 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaids-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5ee70c7d-105f-400e-a9e9-6f4dbc14c208Post:63d208c7-1688-4520-bba4-ce46a7c4ac2d">Re: S/O-Bridesmaids Children</a>:
    [QUOTE]What aragx said.  She might be thrilled to have the night off, <strong>or she might not want to leave him alone yet.</strong>  I think the cutoff would be okay if she brought him.
    Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

    <div>She already leaves him with her H's parents to go out and stuff. She hadn't made any mention of bringing him or not. 
    TBH, I didn't even think twice about until I read the other thread about BMs families.</div>
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  • lenergyrlahlenergyrlah member
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    edited January 2012
    I'm not planning to invite my sister's baby.  If she's that offended she doesn't have to attend.

    Would you be ok with her staying only for the ceremony and photos, and skipping the reception so she can take care of her son?  I would be ready to make this comprimise if she really doesn't want to come without him.

    ETA: just saw that leaving the baby with a sitter is not a problem for her.
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  • I don't think you need to invite the baby. Since this is clearly such a close relationship (as opposed to a more casual guest), I think it's within reason to broach the topic with her. At some later date just let her know you're hoping to keep the wedding adult-only and you're worried about inviting some kids and not others. Let her know you feel a bit bad about leaving her little guy out and you're worried about it and ask if she's cool with it. Best friends should be able to have these kinds of open conversations. If not, I'm not sure what she's doing in your BP...
  • I don't think that you need to invite him.
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