I just found out my wedding is on Yom Kippur! I planned my wedding a year and a half in advance. I booked my hall, my caterer, my dj, my transportation, photographer and videographer.
Well, I am half Jewish (obviously not a good Jew being that I didn't realize). My dad is not at all religious and doesn't fast. BUT my grandmother IS. She is not coming to the wedding anymore because she has to go to HER temple (going to one in the town we are getting married is not acceptable). I totally understand it's a religious thing ad she is very close to her temple and has a memorial to my Grandfather there.
I am not very close to her. She always lived far away and was never good at keeping in contact with me, but I do feel bad that she can't come. So, I contacted all my vendors to see if they can change the date. My photographer was not available to make the move. I already laid down a hefty deposit for him and had my engagement pictures done.
Am I horrible for keeping my date? I tried to accomodate her as much as possible. I tried to change the date (photog not available), I moved my rehearsal dinner the night before earlier so she can still eat before sundown and my food at my wedding won't be served until after sundown.
When I emailed her to tell her I was contacting my vendors to see if they can change, she didn't even email me back. I just feel like I tried to bend over backwards to allow her to attend and her not answering me makes me feel like she isn't even thankful that I was trying to change my whole wedding b/c of her. At this point, I'm thinking I should just accept she isn't going to be there and keep things the way they are.
5 of my close girlfriends are observing the holdiay too, but are ok with skipping services that weekend. They will be fasting (but like I said my food will be served after break fast) so they will be able to eat at the wedding.
Sorry for this being so long