Bridal Party

vikkisue24

So here is my dilemna, my brother has been dating his girlfriend for seven years and she annoys both my fiance and me. And she is not one of my closest friends, actually I never call, email or text her. Is it rude not to ask her to be one of my bridesmaids?? Thanks

crfische

No, it's not rude.

danieliza1127

It's not rude at all.  There's no obligation to have her in your wedding party.  Pick the people that are closest to you and that you most want standing with you on your wedding day.

laurenclaire1386

Dilemna. Of all the ways I've seen that word misspelled, this is a new one. Points awarded for originality.

Rosie109

So here is my enema...

KentuckyKate

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[QUOTE]Dilemna. Of all the ways I've seen that word misspelled, this is a new one. Points awarded for originality.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]
Perhaps it's a mashup of Damn Dilemma?

And OP, I've had a brother for 26 years, and my H didn't make him a GM.  Pick who you want for your bridal party.

marissa_claire

I wouldn't ask any sibling or relative's SO to be in the party unless they were 1) engaged AND 2) meant a lot to me.  We see a number of girls who asked their brother's GF or FSIL's BF and then they break up and then they don't know what to do.  Unless they're going to be your family for life or you're already close regardless of the fact she's dating your bro, I wouldn't.

KentuckyKate

::THREADJACK::

Hey LC!  I was in Baton Rouge on Thursday and I went to the 13th Gate.  You should do that if you haven't.  It was totally awesome.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]::THREADJACK:: Hey LC!  I was in Baton Rouge on Thursday and I went to the 13th Gate.  You should do that if you haven't.  It was totally awesome.
Posted by KentuckyKate[/QUOTE]

I LOVE the Thirteenth Gate! I haven't been this year, but I have the past four or so and they always do a really good job. What were you doing in my neck of the woods?

ekilzer1

If she doesn't mean a lot to you (and you don't even like her) you certainly don't want her in the bridal party, especially if she's not even family. 

KentuckyKate

My brother and SIL are expecting a baby, so this was kind of a last hurrah trip for my brother.  We spent one night in Baton Rouge and 2 nights in New Orleans, and just got home last night.  Pregnant SIL was happy just to eat Boudin balls and shrimp and grits every day, and my brother and I drank about a thousand beers and went to strip clubs and whatnot.  Very fun trip

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]My brother and SIL are expecting a baby, so this was kind of a last hurrah trip for my brother.  We spent one night in Baton Rouge and 2 nights in New Orleans, and just got home last night.  Pregnant SIL was happy just to eat Boudin balls and shrimp and grits every day, and my brother and I drank about a thousand beers and went to strip clubs and whatnot.  Very fun trip :)
Posted by KentuckyKate[/QUOTE]
Aw, I'm glad y'all had a good time. Louisiana might be poor and stupid, but we know how to eat :) And drink.

Gismo123

Nope not rude!  You choose people who are important to you and that you want in the party not what someone else wants