RIng Size

bride124

My fiance gave me a beautiful ring for our engagement and I absolutely love it.  It's a bit big, which I am not complaining about, but everyone who sees it wants to know how expensive it was and how he was able to afford such a ring.  It makes me feel awkward.  How do I respond to this?

temerityjane

If it's that big, use it to backhand them and then their mothers for not teaching them any manners.

Brie2010

That's rude of them.

I would just tell people I honestly have no idea, and then change the subject. 

baystateapple

What TJ said.

soontobehimes

Ok.. so are you concerned about the ring size or people asking yo how much it cost? If it doesn't fit, just go get it resized... it will probably be free from the place you got it.
As far as everyone asking how much it costs.... if you don't want to answer, don't. Just say that's personal or you don't know.. or whatever the case may be.

angie74

that's so freaking rude. it's none of their business.

just deflect the comment with something like "We don't like to discuss the price of things" or "Not sure- he has great taste though, doesn't he?"

J&K10910

I would honestly say "wow, that's really rude!" if someone asked me that.  But I'm straightfoward and kind of a bitch like that.

*BeachBride0410*

Well it really is none of their business & its rude to ask...but I would play dumb & say you honestly do not not how much it cost.  But isn't it beautiful

Knittibell

I got this a lot, too. My very best/closest friend I told- because we tell each other things like that. Other people if they ask directly I will tell them info on the size and type of the stone, but say as I did not purchase it I have no idea what it cost.

ETA- I'm someone who is interested in gemstones/jewelry, so when people ask about the stone/setting I have no problem telling them all about it- I don't talk about price, though.

akhensley81

That's terribly rude. I've had a few people allude to that too though... it's been more of a "I don't even want to know how much you paid for that," and my response has been, "Good, because I wouldn't tell you anyway."

And congrats on your big, beautiful diamond!!

rbtrumpet

haha...I'd probably respond with something to the effect of "well, he put a mortgage on his house, cashed out his retirement, sold plasma for the past year, and I think he sold a kidney....but I don't wanna brag"


seriously - who asks that?!?

danieliza1127

Himes, I think by size, she means the size of the diamonds.  That's why people are asking how much it costs and how he affords it.

Like the others have said, just say that you have no idea how much it costs but you love it and are very excited to be engaged and leave it at that.  They're rude for asking.

soontobehimes

Haha. My sugar must be low or something.

Julz629

Wow, that's rude.  Just brush it off and say, "I have no idea, FI picked it out and I love it" and change the subject.

As a side note, one time I asked a friend what size her ring was because it fit me perfectly.  She started to respond, "its a little over a carat..." and I quickly corrected, "no, like is it a size 6 or 7?"  I was mortified because I felt like I was being so rude.

pooh8402

tell them to mind their own beeswax. people did the same thing to me, and that's what I said.

september's bride

I've answered that kind of question with, "You'd have to take that up with Jon."

I don't comment on the cost of anything I own, unless it's something like comparing housing costs/utilities/car payments, etc. with friends who are going through purchasing something like that on their own. It's not hard to find out that information, so I don't mind discussing that kind of stuff when it's for reference.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

How old are these people?

Calypso1977

ive heard people ask others this and it is rude.  yet oddly, i never hear tehse same people at the wedding ask "how can they afford a $30 or $40K wedding?"  while equally rude, i find it odd that they would question a ring, which at least has tangible value and is an investment, yet never bat an eye at a frivolous party.  seems inconsistent.

im more inclined to give a wise ass response like "he robbed a bank" or "i think he's on teh take" or "he has a side job as a contract killer".

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]ive heard people ask others this and it is rude.  yet oddly, i never hear tehse same people at the wedding ask "how can they afford a $30 or $40K wedding?"  while equally rude, i find it odd that they would question a ring, which at least has tangible value and is an investment, yet never bat an eye at a frivolous party.  seems inconsistent. im more inclined to give a wise ass response like "he robbed a bank" or "i think he's on teh take" or "he has a side job as a contract killer".
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

I think FI's grandmother asked something like that at FI's cousin's wedding. "How much is thing costing them?!" But she's 99, so that's not unexpected.

myother1

Confession:  I sometimes wonder how certain people can afford huge rings and weddings.  Sometimes I say it aloud, to people I trust.  Then we speculate about raging debt and/or family contribution.

Why live within your means if you can't feel a little superior every now and then?

I Want Cake

It's none of their goddamn business how much it cost.  I told my parents how much mine was, and I even regret doing that because now my mom tells me how I could have done with less, basically that it's too good for me.  I waited a very long time for this ring and I deserve every penny FI spent. (/ end rant)

If anyone else asks, make up a story about how you've promised your first-born child to the church of Satan or some such thing.  They'll get the point.

lisarose7

"What an interesting question.  Why do you ask?  And have you tried this wonderful bean dip?"

cmeinla

tell them he had to take a sidejob as a male escort and ask if they're interested in his services.

vegasgroom

Are these friends of yours that are asking this or just random people?  My FI gets asked fairly regularly how big the stone is but she's never been asked how much it was (she doesn't know anyway).  If someone did ask me or her that, I'd be inclined to be a little rude in response.