shower guest list help

aro1589

So on my guest list for the wedding, there's 4 girls I went to highschool with.  2 that I've stayed in touch with, and 2 that I haven't as much (but would have liked to).  To make it easier, I'll give their first names.  I've remained close with Katey and Lyndsay but not as close to Anna and Maddy.  Katey and Anna have stayed very close and Lyndsay and Maddy have stayed close. 

So, as I'm doing my shower list to hand off to my sister, I am obviously inviting Katey and Lyndsay.  But I'm not sure if I should invite Anna and Maddy.  I don't want them to think I'm hitting them up out of the blue for a gift (they are invited to the wedding though).  But I feel like Katey and Anna would come together if Anna was invited and Lyndsay and Maddy would come together too.  I feel like since Katey and Lyndsay won't know anyone, they would be more likely to come if Anna and Maddy were invited too.

am I overthinking this? 

whitsy

Yes. Invite them if you want to. A shower is only for closest friends and family; you don't have to feel as obligated to invite them to a shower, unless you just really want them there.

hoffse

Honestly that's too much for me to figure out.  Invite them if you want to, don't invite them if you don't want to.  I understand that there may be a need to invite multiple people in the same circle just because the rest of the circle is invited, but judge that on a case-by-case basis.  There is one girl who will be invited to my shower but only because I'm in a wedding with her coming up, and she runs around with three of my bridesmaids.  She and I aren't close, never have been, and never will be but she would make my BM's lives miserable if she weren't invited, so she's going to get an invitation to keep the peace.  It will be fine.  If yours is a situation like that, then I'd do it.  Otherwise I probably wouldn't bother.  But yes, you're overthinking this.  Just go with your gut.

Loopyseven

Since it sounds like you would like to rekindle your relationshipo with the other two, consider inviting them to the shower the first step.  Chat with them there, try to set up a lunch date between now and the wedding, see them at the wedding, get in touch at least once after the wedding to try to get together for a girls afternoon or something.  See where it goes from there.

aro1589

thanks girls!