How do you "uninvite" someone from being part of your wedding party?

Psych819

WOW. You just stated you want to uninvite one of your closest girlfriends because she will be married. Honestly, I hope this was a joke because if it's not that is wrong.

ashkay07

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[QUOTE]My man and I decided last October to plan our wedding for this August. Naturally, I immediately told my 4 closest girlfriends, and asked them to be bridesmaids. Well, one of those girls recently got engaged and is getting married in July (fast, I know) and asked me to be a bridesmaid for her (oops, I'll be out of the country). I'm a little traditional in the fact that all my bridesmaids were going to be single. Otherwise, choosing would be harder since I have a few close friends who've recently been married. Is it possible to "uninvite" this girl from being a bridesmaid? Or am I just being a bridezilla? And if I do uninvite her, how do I tell her, and who do I fill the spot with? Because I need an even number. I have another friend I could ask, but I'm a little worried she won't fit in with the other 3 since it's 2 completely different sets of people from different parts of my life.
Posted by karlijw[/QUOTE]

I can understand where you're coming from as far as being "traditional" or "old fashioned" and wating to have single bridesmaids, but in my opinion, uninviting her to be a bridesmaid just for the reason alone that she is/will be married before your wedding is, well, a little rude. I made the mistake myself of jumping and asking my three closest friends to be my bridesmaids, and I did end up uninviting one of them to be a bridesmaid, but my reasoning was nothing to do with the wedding, it was our friendship. Long story short, she kept making plans with me and not following through, the last plans I had made with her, ended with her leaving me at the store to go hang out with another friend of hers that I'm not friends with. I didn't feel that she was worthy of being my bridesmaid, let alone my friend, so I told her straight, that I was going to ask someone else instead, and asked my fiance's sister.