Unrealistic expectations?

NuggetBrain

So we just got our save the date magnets in the mail.  I ordered them from Etsy because they were cheaper on there than through a big website, and I'm not DIY savvy enough to pull that off.  Anyways, they look fine, but seem to be a little thin (I could actually tear one like thick paper).  I've been noticing that whenever I get something that I ordered (the invites, the magnets, the rehearsal dinner invites) they never seem quite as good as I want them to be.  Even the e-pics, which I loved, I could only seem to notice the little things that I didn't like.  It's like I'm expecting to be blown away with everything I get and the reality never lives up to that.  I'm worried that I'm dealing with unrealistic expectations for wedding related things - is anybody else having this problem?  I'm not sure how to fix it - obviously I could spend a crapton of money and get blown away, but that's just not an option.  Trying to find a way to be happy with what I can afford, as pathetic as that sounds.

shellydiane820

I wouldn't worry too much for stds and invites and whatnot.

Those end up in the garbage anyway,

RachNRich

I think you just want things to be of a certain quality--and I don't think that's an unrealistic expectation. However, I doubt many will notice certain things like the thickness of a magnet much like you will.

NuggetBrain

See that's what my logical mind knows, that it doesn't matter because nobody is going to be all "ZOMG these magnets are thin, their wedding is going to to be horrible!"  But my illogical mind is telling me that this is my only wedding, and I want everything to be perfect down to even the last detail.  I think it's gotten worse now that I'm not working, since I have so much time now to worry and notice things like that.

thesuninherhead

You've been looking at too much beautiful wedding porn. I think we all go through this (or, at least, all of us who spend time looking at other weddings) to an extent. 

Nebb

Not everything can be perfect though, and the sooner you accept that the easier the whole process will be. Accept things for the way they are, as long as they are visually pleasing and of decent quality, I doubt anyone but you is going to notice these things. Its just going to stress you out. I would hate for the day to come and you end up nit picking over things that werent perfect and end up tarnishing your memories or something. Im sure the std's look great and I know the e-pics look great.

RachNRich

I cannot help but think this is so natural--and that you are far more normal than you think you are being right now. I did not used to care about the quality of things (i.e. our STD magnets), but I felt like a total scum bag sending out invites that had printed envelopes--and no names on the inner envelopes.

Rich had to reassure me that not a single person invited to our wedding spent the majority of their free time on The Knot--and would have no idea that something was amiss.

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i'd say it's possible you have unrealistic expectations, depending how much you're spending. if you're dropping a small fortune on this stuff, it's reasonable to expect high quality shiit. if not, maybe you are being unrealistic.

NuggetBrain

Not dropping beaucoup bucks on most of the paper stuff, because honestly, who's going to remember the invites how ever many months or years later.  Champagne tastes on a beer budget I guess.  But thanks for putting it in perspective for me y'all.

Night_Sprite

Also, it's good for STD magnets to be flexible for mailing.