Younger Members of the Wedding Party

mysngs2u

I am not close (haven't even met one of them) with my two young cousins and my fiance isn't close with his young cousins either.  We live on the other side of the country from them. 
I grew up babysitting two sets of families and am very close with both sets of parents and their kids.  The older girls will be 12 at the time of the wedding and I'd like to include them in some way.  From the other family the kids will be 6 and 4 and I'm contemplating asking them to be flower girl and ring bearer unless the parents want a day w/o the kids.  Is it rude to ask these children outside the family to be a part of the wedding and not ask related cousins??

rebarobert2012

I don't think you should feel obligated to include cousins that you are not even close to in your wedding party.

Jenni8412

Ditto on PP's . I have a similar situation in that it didn't occur to me that there my be any expectations that we would include my cousins until long after I had asked my bridesmaid about involving her children. I decided the best course of action was to be prepared for the possibility of hurt feelings. If any family is forward enough to question our decision and keeps pushing it, we have logical reasons to give them, and hopefully they'll drop it. You should include the kids you want to and may feel a little better about it if you're prepared for any possible questions your family may bring up. HTH!