Let's talk about KPS.

crfische

1) What's with the young brides being so uptight?

2) I love the person who cheers on tired runners.

3) How important is it to you to "fit in" on the boards? That's more of a poll question, but the top secret has me wondering. Or do you feel like you "fit in?"

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]1) What's with the young brides being so uptight? 2) I love the person who cheers on tired runners. 3) How important is it to you to "fit in" on the boards? That's more of a poll question, but the top secret has me wondering. Or do you feel like you "fit in?"
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

1) young brides get a really rough time on these boards.  Everyone automatically assumes that if they're young, they aren't ready to get married.  I've seen it happen time and time again.  It must have just happened somewhere and that's what's causing those secrets.

2) Yeah that's nice

3) I feel like I "fit in" now, but there were definitely times when I didn't.  It's important to a degree.  I mean, if you post here regularly, of course you want to make friends and be liked, that's only natural.

vallyhoo

1) Age ain't nothin' but a number.

2) I do the same but it wasn't my secret.

3) I worry more about fitting into my jeans.

MissLeahM

Its all the anal bleaching.. It does that to some girls.

The cat one makes me sad, I think its just the picture. I don't feel like I fit in, but I'm okay with that, not everyone fits in everywhere kwim? I like to stick around because the girls here crack me up.

jayjoe

1. Over the years i've seen the age thing brought up in a few case. I've also seen where disagreements turn into insults and the young age of the bride is thrown out there. Also, IRL (and i am guilty of this) whenever a young girl is with an older man, the word golddigger is a pretty common thought.

3. I lurk more than post so i dont ever think about fitting in. I dont mean this in a nasty way, but i dont really care about that. I have a ton of friends in my real life. BUT, i do know quite a bit of people who really have no one but their online life is full of "friends". When they fight with someone or a board flames them its as if they have lost real friends. I mean, to each their own. I try hard (and sometimes fail miserably) not to judge them, some people just cant deal with people face to face. Online is just easier.

ohwhynot

1.  Young brides are defensive, I think, because they're given a hard time.  And while it is very tempting to give them a hard time, it's futile in most cases.  Nobody could have told me, when I married at age 20, what a foolish mistake I was making.  Nobody.  I have no idea what the statistics are for young marriages, but I do know that mine failed, horribly, and most of my friends'/acquaintances' died similarly unhappy deaths.  On the other hand, two of my sisters married at age 19 and they've been married for 28 years and for 37 years. 

2.  I like that.

3.  If I felt I just didn't fit in here, I wouldn't be here.  Not everyone is my fan, of course, but I feel like I fit in well enough with the vibe in here.  I respect and admire almost all of the posters here, so that helps. 

crfische

I figured someone somewhere must be talking about young brides. I've seen immature young brides, but I've seen equally immature older brides.

My only thing about getting married young is to make sure you've done what you want to do and experienced different things. But I get that that was important FOR ME. I guess it's not important for everyone. I just changed so much from 18-26 that what I wanted when I was 21 was definitely not what I wanted at 28.

FutureMrsTR

1) What's with the young brides being so uptight?  They just don't seem to get as much benefit of the doubt as older brides might.  So they start off defensive.

2) I love the person who cheers on tired runners.  Me too, I always think, "Man, good for them, I should be doing tha-hey cookies!"

3) How important is it to you to "fit in" on the boards? That's more of a poll question, but the top secret has me wondering. Or do you feel like you "fit in?"  It's kind of important, I mean, no one wants to hang out somewhere they feel awkward.  I've started feeling like I "fit in" more recently and it's definitely nice.

jayjoe

Oh and i'm getting sooo tired of the secrets THAT ARE NOT SECRETS!!!!!!!!!! The fighting about the healthcare in the US and CAN is getting me so annoyed. Bring it to the boards!!! And the BF thing and the red-headed kids thing! Someone posts a secret and then a ton of people bashing that secret. Stop being a chickenshit and go to the boards!!

Sorry. I'm a little bitchass today.

crfische

I mean... I guess everyone "fits in" in a way to me. Even if you're new, or a lurker, or a come around every now and then poster, or even a poster that 99% of people hate, in the grand scheme of thing that's what makes up a posting community...right?

Or maybe she meant that people just glaze over her posts? I dunno.

aragx6

I agree that young brides are really defensive, probably because they're not just getting shiit for it on TK but also at home. Or they could also be from a region where marrying young is normal or even expected so they're surprised by the reaction they get from posters here.

I don't know that I fit in or don't here; I just know that E is far more entertaining than doing work. As long as TK is more fun than work, I'll probably stick around -- even if only just to lurk.

crfische

OH I KNOW. The USA-Canadian health care posts are out of control over there...on...what is it. BPS? NPS?

salt78

I don't care about fitting in. 

I just care about being mean. 

SO mean.

arbolita

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[QUOTE]I don't care about fitting in.  I just care about being mean.  SO mean.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

You are totally the meanest.

salt78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Let's talk about KPS. : You are totally the meanest.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh I know. I deserve a swift kick in the crotch.</div><div>
</div><div>Now you better stand back...I'm going to make some science. </div>

AdeleDazeem

1) What's with the young brides being so uptight? To a certain extent, they have to be defensive around here and in life. 

2) I love the person who cheers on tired runners.  Yes.  That is so kind.  I always loved going to the end of the Boston Marathon and watching the regular runners hoof it in.  Everyone cheered for them and they ran a little bit faster with big grins on their faces.  It makes me a little emotional....

3) How important is it to you to "fit in" on the boards? That's more of a poll question, but the top secret has me wondering. Or do you feel like you "fit in?"  I don't fit in around here.  It bothers me sometimes, but mostly it doesn't because I know in real life I would never sit around discussing weddings or girly things.  I speak my mind a lot more now around here than I did before because this is just a message board and I like the discussion.  What I don't like is topics where everyone agrees and if one person says something different, everyone jumps all over them. 

crfische

HEY! WAIT! I can be mean too, ya cootie queen.

crfische

Huh. I always thought you fit in, Joy. Shows what I know.

salt78

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[QUOTE]HEY! WAIT! I can be mean too, ya cootie queen.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

<div>We are a couple of the bitchiest bitches here obviously.</div>

aragx6

I kind of just feel sorry for the girl who posted the secret. She sounds lonely. I wish I knew who she was so I could be nice to her. There were times in my life as a kid when I didn't have many friends and it was a bummer!

crfische

Vally, too. She's kinda a hoor.

crfische

Awww, Rag. You're so nice. That's usually my first gut reaction, too.

There have been so many tumbleweeds blowin' through this place lately, I bet everyone feels ignored.

vallyhoo

hoo you callin' a hoor?!

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE]OH I KNOW. The USA-Canadian health care posts are out of control over there...on...what is it. BPS? NPS?
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

BPS.  I found that mess this morning.  Good god - everyone needs to calm down.  And that email that was written in to counter the "secrets"?  Who thought that was a good idea?  Can we all write in a counter arguements and have the whole thing devolve into a fight?  Or, can it just be a...ya know... place to post secrets?  Grr.

jayjoe

The healthcare thing is the Bump. They are all crazy.

And who are you calling a Cootie Queen, you Lint Licker?? (sorry, love that commercial)

andyandhillary

1)  They get a lot of crap for being young, I guess.  IMO, you don't have to disclose your age on the boards so no one has to know that you are a young bride. 

2)  I'm a horrible person and just hate that they enjoy running.  Working out never makes me happy so I'm jealous that other people seem to enjoy it. 

3)  I would say that I don't necessarily fit in but I don't clash either and I'm ok with that.  I come here because I enjoy passing the time and I find a lot of things here funny.   

crfische

I'm calling yoo a hoor, ya yoohoo.

mandysmear

well i was a young bride/am a young wife.  i get why people feel that way.  when people my age get married after not knowing the person very long i automatically judge.  like what's the rush? 

every relationship is different.

i have not once regretted marrying my husband, but at the same time i could have waited longer to get married. and sometimes i feel self concious about the fact we were married so young.  however, he proposed, i knew he was the one i wanted to be with for the rest of my life, and there was no way i could be engaged for a long time.  so, married we were.  and i couldn't be happier. 

kd.joseph

1) What's with the young brides being so uptight? As someone who was married at a young age that ended horribly, I guess my side eye comes from experience. I know who I am now, and how much I've changed. But I do agree, some of these marriages do work.

2) I love the person who cheers on tired runners. I agree with this statement. I think the encouragement goes a long way.

3) How important is it to you to "fit in" on the boards? That's more of a poll question, but the top secret has me wondering. Or do you feel like you "fit in?" I'm with Joy on this one. No I dont feel like I fit in here that much. I lurk for the entertainment, and may post from time to time. And although I dont post to KPS (I dont even read them anymore) I have posted here and been ignored. So I can empathize.

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE] Or do you feel like you "fit in?" I'm with Joy on this one. No I dont feel like I fit in here that much. I lurk for the entertainment, and may post from time to time. And although I dont post to KPS (I dont even read them anymore) I have posted here and been ignored. So I can empathize.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I always thought you fit in!  I guess we all walk the line :)

jnic0319

1. People on the Knot tend to attack young brides, I get that most young brides are very immature and have not yet experienced much of life and could be setting themselves up for much regret.  I myself am a very young bride (22) however I have been in my career field for 3+ years, have a Masters degree, have lived on my own for over 4 years and have dated FI for 5.  He is also a few years older than me.  I know I'm ready and have experienced all I need to, but others may not, I definitely have gotten called out for my age (that was not my secret though) but frankly I'm confident and know that people have no idea who I am or what my life is like, not all young brides are in the same situation though and may take it more to heart, maybe they already have some of the doubts that others are pointing out?

2. That one made me smile, because I always just wish I had that determination haha.

3. I am not a very avid poster, so I wouldn't say I "fit in" but I feel comfortable here, and I like all of your personalities, I'm not too worried about "fitting in" perfectly.