Hello everyone,
I'm terrified, but here I am, throwing myself to the mercy of the ruthless Etiquette posters! Sorry the post is long, but I just want to try and illustrate what's going on. I posted a question about this a couple days about on the Wedding Party topic portion of the boards, but now that the situation has progressed, I was looking to see what you can offer me.
A 'brief' backstory... I am having some major issues with one of my bridesmaids, my fiance's niece. I really want her to be in my wedding, and she seemed enthusiastic when my fiance and I first asked her. We were slightly concerned because there have been some family problems in the recent past (she is the only one from that side of my fiance's family who is willing to come to the wedding (nothing my fiance did)), but she said that she did not care and that she wanted to be a bridesmaid. So I was ecstatic!
Unfortunately, now she will not return my phone calls, text messages, or facebook messages and she will also not respond to my fiance's calls or text messages (but she is responding and answering other people (so it's not a case of the broken phone/computer/carrier pigeon)).
My mom and dad keep saying "give her an out" but I cannot think of a way to do that without being incredibly rude. With the last post, many wise knotties told me to try initiating conversation that did not center around the wedding. I tried asking her how college was going/how she was doing... and I still never received a reply. This is really incredibly upsetting for me, and I really do not know what to do now.
Opinions/Suggestions? Is there a way to ask if a bridesmaid has changed her mind? I also do NOT want this to be another issue that their family can talk about at the holidays, about how I kicked her out of my bridal party (because I really would still love for her to be in the bridal party... I just don't know how to actually TALK to her).