Going to a dinner party-advice

louisvillebride21

My internship prof is hosting a dinner party for all the interns this semester. She emailed us all the info. I had her as a prof and she's pretty awesome. Anyway, would it be rude of me to email her back and let her know that I'm allergic to peanuts?

miss.jawright

I would just ask if peanuts are in anything when you get there.  But I don't think it's terrible if you ask before hand.

nda_roxybabe

I would just ask if any of the dishes will be containing peanuts.

Sunshine9463

Hmm. I would agree to just ask the day of. Depending on how close you are, and how many people will be attending, it might sound slightly odd; not rude, though.

Or maybe, if it isn't at a restaurant, ask if you could bring something, and make sure it is something you could eat?
 

katiewhompus

How allergic are we talking? Can you just not eat anything with peanuts or can you not be in the vacinity of peanuts?

louisvillebride21

Sorry, spaced out. I can't eat anythign with it or cooked in peanut oil.

She told us not to bring anything, so  I don't really want to do that. I guess I'll just ask the day of.

akhensley81

OP- I wouldn't see anything wrong with it. I'm allergic too - as in, anaphylactic shock kind of allergic - and I've never once hesitated to ask in any situation I've been in where food is being served to me. I'd rather apologize for the weird question, than ruin her dinner party with a trip to the ER.

lyndausvi

No I do not think it's rude, of course it's all in the delivery.

Better to be them  then 'ruin' the dinner party with a trip to the ER.

cqbride

As a hostess, I prefer to know about special dietary needs in advance so I can accomodate them. I've hosted two Thanksgivings now where I've had people who I was unaware were vegetarian show up without letting me know in advance if they were (and yes-- I ask about special requirements in the invite). It's better to know.

swtasa

I'd ask in advance what she's planning for the menu, if they have any peanuts or peanut oil.

It also depends on the severity of your allergy. I'm severely allergic to seafood(all kinds go me) and I can't even eat anything that was cooked in the same place. If you are one of the people that go into anaphylactic shock from eating peanuts your host needs to be aware, It's not being picky or weird it's watching out for your health, most people understand that

aggiebug

I agree with the letting her know in advance, if they have to make accomidations it will be easier if they knew before hand instead of whipping someing up on the spur of the moment. 

This is not a picky eater issue, this is a serious health issue so it is by no means rude to inform the hosts.