Paying for Bachelorette Party

MrsNash2be

Hey, everyone.  I have a pretty simple question, really.  Should I insist on contributing to my bachelorette party?  My awesome BMs are planning a trip to Vegas in June.  We already have our flights booked and my MOH just booked our suite.  I asked how much it would be per person but she said she didn't think I should pay since its my bachelorette party. Is this customary?  Do brides usually not pay?  I feel funny not paying my share since the whole trip is kinda for me.  TIA

KatyRoseM

I think its normal for brides not to pay.  If you offer thats great.  If you insist that might be great, it depends on how your friends would take it

midgetthemighty

I've always heard that the bride did not contribute monitarily to the Bachelorette party. Maybe this would be a good time to give them their Bridesmaids gifts?

hlq2011

For trips like that, I think brides should be prepared to chip in.

That said, my BM (FSIL) won't let me pay for anything, and we're going to Ft. Lauderdale.

littlefieldmj

What nice friends!  Maybe if they insist that you not pay, you could treat them all to a brunch or lunch while you're out there?  Sounds like a blast, have fun!!

dragossoul84

I wouldnt let my friend pay at all I'm praying the other girls chip in but not her Its a gift I couldnt let her help pay for her gift

cookiesandwine

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paying-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:669e8c33-c757-48bc-ba84-1862dd8432bbPost:9b2c1cc4-c89d-475c-82db-0552925e1f1a">Re: Paying for Bachelorette Party</a>:
[QUOTE]What nice friends!  Maybe if they insist that you not pay, you could treat them all to a brunch or lunch while you're out there?  Sounds like a blast, have fun!!
Posted by littlefieldmj[/QUOTE]

This.

MrsNash2be

Thanks everyone.  I guess I will not insist on paying, then.  I think I might book a cabana at one of the pools instead, I know everyone would enjoy that.

lisa89760

I'm getting everyone that makes the trip to Chicago with me for my Bachelorette party a gift..not sure what yet to thank them.  It would be different if there wasn't travel involved but they are taking time out of their lives and spending some money for the weekend so I want to thank them.

I like the idea of taking them out to brunch or something too. 

annakb8

I'm trying to insist on chipping in on my bachelorette too. Its in DC, and only two or three people are flying in, but I'm trying to get my MOH to let me help pay for a hotel room and whatever vehicle we get for the vinyard tour we have planned. I also plan on paying for my own drinks and food. I don't think there is anything wrong with paying for the bride's portion of things, but personally it makes me uncomfortable.

mandi921vh

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[QUOTE]What nice friends!  Maybe if they insist that you not pay, you could treat them all to a brunch or lunch while you're out there?  Sounds like a blast, have fun!!
Posted by littlefieldmj[/QUOTE]

<div>I would do this. </div>

crash2729

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[QUOTE]Thanks everyone.  I guess I will not insist on paying, then.  <strong>I think I might book a cabana at one of the pools instead,</strong> I know everyone would enjoy that.
Posted by MrsNash2be[/QUOTE]

Awesome!

AbbeyS2011

Take them all to the Hard Rock Cafe and treat them to Las Vegas HRC tees, and get your pic taken there.  That would be fun!

My MOH is planning a bachelorette at Great Wolf Lodge, and got mad at me when I said I would contribute. 

kat22885

For my friend's bachelorette, I insisted that she didn't pay for anything.  I got funny looks from people when we were all at dinner (we didn't take a trip) and I told the waitress to put her meal and drinks on my bill...but really...I wasn't about to let her pay.

So yeah, I think you're right to offer, but if your friends insist, let it drop and do something nice for them later in the weekend.

LisaChris2011

I am contributing to the hotel costs at my Bach Party.  I also find it a little 'weird' that all of them are paying for me in additon to all of their hard work already in helping me with the wedding.  You can offer, but don't insist. 

ahughes044

Well I have a question kind of related to this.  My bachelorette party is tomorrow night and I have been told the same thing...that I'm not paying for anything.  My question is though is that I would like to do thank you cards for the girls hosting it, but do I need to do one for the whole group?  I personally love to do thank you cards and wasn't what the proper protocol was.  TIA!

LisaChris2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paying-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:669e8c33-c757-48bc-ba84-1862dd8432bbPost:f835105c-0c9d-4538-912a-3dbd58c406aa">Re: Paying for Bachelorette Party</a>:
[QUOTE]Well I have a question kind of related to this.  My bachelorette party is tomorrow night and I have been told the same thing...that I'm not paying for anything.  My question is though is that I would like to do thank you cards for the girls hosting it, but do I need to do one for the whole group?  I personally love to do thank you cards and wasn't what the proper protocol was.  TIA!
Posted by ahughes044[/QUOTE]

I think individual cards would be nice.  In each card you can write something specific about each girl.

angiecmoore34

Enjoy! If your friends are ready to pay for your trip allow them to do that as a gift to you.....

simplebride_24

We are just staying in the city (that we live in) so I am guessing that I won't have to pay a thing.  I am guessing that my overly high paid nurse sister will pay for all my stuff.  If not it is custom for each person in our circle to buy at least one drink or one shot for the bride.  My issue, I don't drink.  So it should be an interesting night, which is next weekend!!

StacyJenniges

I have never allowed any brides that I've planned bacholette parties for chip in, however that being said I will offer to pitch in myself.  But I do think that if they say no that you leave it at that.  I think if you feel guilty about how much is being spent maybe spend a bit more on their bridesmaids gifts, or pay for their hair for the wedding, that way things will even out a bit. 

Loopyseven

The bride has never paid at any of the b-parties I've been to.  I took cash to mine just in case cause we stayed local for dinner and wine-bar hopping, but didn't end up needing any.  For a trip like that though, I wouldn't expect my bridesmaids to pay for my airfare or hotel room for a weekend away, I'd expect to pay my share of those expenses even as the bride cause that stuff is $$$.

sarahmwilcox

I would definitly insist on paying for my flight and gambling money since its Vegas. But it's customary not to buy drinks or dinner at our bachlorette party. Have fun!!

ElleestJenn

I just had mine last night and they wouldn't let me pay for anything. It was really great of them. They took me out to diinner and then out for some drinks. 

I think since your's is a trip you should offer and if they don't let you then that's awesome of them! 

JCM10

We never, ever let my friends pay for anything at their bachellorette parties