Diamonds only?

brookef101

I have a blue sapphire ring, with a vintage, scrolled band. I really didn't want a diamond, as I'm not a 'diamond' type of girl and I really wanted something that looked old and vintage. There are 6 diamonds inbetween the scrolls in the band, to  make the blue sapphire pops, but other then that I truly love it. Although I agree with some other people's comments about getting snide remarks. I had co-workers whisper to other people that "he didn't get her a diamond". Even my fiance was like, "it will make me look cheap". Horrible that in our day and age, you get comments for being different! It's an engagement ring and can be set in whatever stone you want! People are rude, ignorant and most of the time jealous about someone elses happiness! I think you should truly go with  something that represents you as person. If you like big flashy things, then a huge flashy diamond would suit you. But if you are more low key and not into bling, then something elsewould suit you too. Go with your heart! I'll attach a photo!

missy68

 am think its lame if the bride to be picks out her ring

Well, run, better the bride picks out her rings when her FI admits he doesn't dare do it without her there than have a bride wanting to exchange the ring because it isn't right or whatever.

FWIW, he also picked out his ring. So, I guess that makes us a lame couple And you judgy.

MMRoberts11

I didn't want a diamond and my FI knew that.  Since my favorite color is blue he went with an amazing quality sapphire set in a band designed especially to hold the stone.

shortee426

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[QUOTE]Diamonds are a DIME A DOZEN~ I say boo on getting a store stocked ring. blah blah now you can be cookie cutter like all the other brides out there! <strong> I am think its lame if the bride to be picks out her ring.</strong>  My fiancee designed my ring and had a sapphire imported, untreated, from SriLanka. not bragging - I am just saying his effort and originality goes way farther than Jareds and all the social pressure rings...  Get something FUN, unique and that represents HIM - as the ring is supposed to be a SYMBOL of HIS LOVE TO YOU.  Below are our rings. 
Posted by run2bfree[/QUOTE]

<div>1. Learn to proofread before you post.</div><div>
</div><div>2. J and I went together to look at rings.  He ultimately picked it up himself, but it was the ring that I clearly loved the most. So in a way I guess I picked out my own ring.  And neither J or I could be happier.</div><div>
</div><div>3. If you want to be all braggy and judgmental, this is not the place for you.</div>

gwencortopassi

We were engaged before we had rings (that's right.  I said RINGS.  My husband wore a sterling silver band before we were married), and I wasn't sure what I wanted.  We looked around a bit, and I kept coming back to sapphires.  He ultimately surprised me with a one-of-a-kind pear cut sapphire in a pave setting.  It stops traffic--in either good ("that is stunning!") or or bad ("What, he couldn't afford a diamond?") ways.  Either way, it's mine, and it's not going anywhere  

sarieck

I started researching non-diamond options when I was starting to hint to my fiance to propose (you know how can be sometimes).  I started looking at vintage-inspired aquamarine rings, but found that those stones do not usually last with daily wear for a lifetime, so I started looking at sapphires and fell in love.  I initially wanted a light denim sapphire, but as time went on I decided he could surprise me with any shade of blue sapphire!  It is a perfect deep blue that becomes as blue as the heart of the ocean from Titanic in some lighting making looking down at it a constant surprise.  I would never change it for a diamond, although I have small diamonds on the sides.  

Just do what makes you happy since you will be looking for it for the rest of your life, but be prepared for some quizzical looks when you tell people you're engaged (although most will gush over how original and beautiful it is regardless if they like it or not)

xChinaDollx

Well, I think diamond rings considered engagement rings are they are very stable and hard, can hold up to everyday use; and they are the hardest stone in the world. So that's all the qualities that you want in a marriage maybe?

But I don't see why diamond is the ONLY type of stone for engagement rings.Diamond rings are nice, but I think if a girl wants a colored stone ring then she can have her colored stone ring. There is no set rules that you HAVE to get a diamond.

My birthstone is diamond, but I picked out a Tanzanite stone ring.It's really cute and it's very me. I'm just waiting for it! I do want a diamond(what girldoesnt?) But I likes the colored stone as engagement ring better because it's cheaper and more unique. And I figures I will have more diamonds later on in life, just not on my engagement ring!

MandK9

I have a moissanite ring, because I really don't like the diamond industry. I'm very impressionable, and I can't expunge the knowledge of what goes on "behind the scenes" from my brain.

FI knew this, knows I don't wear diamonds, but that I love how they look... so he found my moissanite one.  Someone over on SB the other day, Blue maybe? said that she hates them, because people try to pass them off as diamonds. I don't think mine can be passed off as one, or if it is- people probably think it's an awful one.  It has a little yellowish tinge in certain light.  But I don't try to fool people; everyone knows it's moissanite, and they know why I wanted moissanite. 

However, I've encountered some snotty girls who now think less of FI because of it.  They think I'm just making up an excuse for him not having spent like $15,000 on my ring. It was a whopping $1300, and I love it.

Sorry, that got wordy.

lgiorno

My main stone is not a diamond.  It is a Sapphire with a diamond on each side.  Wedding rings originally were gemstones, but the kings and queens changed it to diamonds b/c they were more rare.  

jmorford

we were on a really tight budget, and we could get a .8 ct orange sapphire for the same price as a .3 ct diamond. plus, it's ORANGE aka my favorite color in the unniverse. it doesn't "match" anything that i wear, you kind of just treat it as a neutral.
my dad gave my mom a new ring on their 20th anniversary, and she got an aquamarine. she loves it, and wouldn't have it any other way.
i figure that i never wear anything normal.... everything has a little twist to it. wouldn't it make sense for my engagement ring to be the same way?

BrianKrista

I recently got engaged with a sapphire e-ring with diamond sidestones. I originally thought I wanted a diamond ring with sapphires on the sides, but when trying on rings, I didn't get excited over the diamond rings. I think they look beautiful on everyone else but they just didn't look right on me! It wasn't until I tried on the sapphire ring that I truly felt it was the right one. It's all about personal choice, I believe, the diamond isn't the symbol of the commitment, it's the ring.

DramaGeek

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[QUOTE]Noodle, bless his heart, is very traditional when it comes to jewelry and accessories.  So even if I had of wanted something other than a diamond as an e-ring I think I still would have ended up with a diamond as an e-ring.  And I love it - he got me the exact style and setting I wanted and it fit perfectly into my wedding ring.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

My H is the same way.  I did want something other than a diamond, but he wouldn't hear of it.  I asked for an amethyst or purple garnet, but he insisted I have a diamond.  He grew up in a very poor, blue collar family so it was a point of pride for him to be able to buy me a diamond whether I wanted it or not.  It was years before he realized I wanted a colored stone because it's what I prefer.  He thought I was trying to save money, and he didn't want his family to think he couldn't afford something "better."

nickandmerritt

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_diamonds-only?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:66db3b46-adb6-4c0c-bd8f-eeeb6fa85236Post:d092dd6c-00d3-465b-a223-4ea01be06e02">Re: Diamonds only?</a>:
[QUOTE]Diamonds are a DIME A DOZEN~ I say boo on getting a store stocked ring. blah blah now you can be cookie cutter like all the other brides out there!  I am think its lame if the bride to be picks out her ring.  My fiancee designed my ring and had a sapphire imported, untreated, from SriLanka. not bragging - I am just saying his effort and originality goes way farther than Jareds and all the social pressure rings...  Get something FUN, unique and that represents HIM - as the ring is supposed to be a SYMBOL of HIS LOVE TO YOU.  Below are our rings. 
Posted by run2bfree[/QUOTE]

honey, lots of people have sapphires.  you are not any less cookie cutter for wearing an engagement ring that your man designed without any input from you.