Am I over-reacting? This seems really offensive: UPDATED

mfeo24

I've emailed about 10 photographers and got some good feedback, but then I got this:

Congratulations on your engagement and thanks for writing! We would be thrilled to document your elopement.

For something like this we charge $1000/hr and would include an online gallery and Cd of images for you.

With a small elopement like this, we would like to help with styling so we can get it published on a wedding blog. Here is an example of an elopement we documented in September:

Let us know your thoughts and we will go from there!

Thanks and have a wonderful day.

Did the photographer just ask to design my wedding so he could get published???? I really want to tell him off, that it's our day, about a marriage and life together, and about my choices on how to "style" it, but maybe this is just how it's done and I'll simply ignore it.



UPDATED:

Thanks to the lessons I've learned here, I decided to go with and "over excited and slightly confused" response. I know I could have said "no thanks" or just let it be, but this gave me a little enjoyment Thanks ladies

All this sounds great, and I would LOVE to help you get published!! Your styling is lovely and the offer to pay to feature ours is more than generous! What a great opportunity for both of us!

I outlined our basic vision below, but please let me know what you think about a portrait venue and design details, I can't wait to hear what you come up with! What else do you need from me to get started?

His response was less than satisfying, now I'm bored with this;

Thanks for getting back to me. I don't see anything outlined below... but would love to hear what you are thinking. 

Also, I am not sure I understand what you mean by, "...the offer to pay to feature ours is more than generous!" Can you explain this a little?

Thanks!

FutureMrsFezz

1000/hr!  Holy hell.

jemmini6

$1000/hour??!! Holy hell, that's f*cking insane.  And then he wants to style it for his own agenda?  Yeah...F that guy and find someone else!

ski2play

OP the link to the sample is gone.  Are you for real?

heyjude23

Yeah I would be irked by that response as well.  I wouldn't even respond, just go with another photographer.

achiduck

Wow.. $1000 an hour. I might have had a heart attack and died. Find another photographer.

heyjude23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_am-over-reacting-this-seems-really-offensive?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:67e43b1f-a77c-4a6a-936f-7e2a82ab6ed1Post:b5e59c38-2432-433e-b7ed-af8829bdfc48">Re: Am I over-reacting? This seems really offensive</a>:
[QUOTE]OP the link to the sample is gone.  Are you for real?
Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]

I think she removed it to protect the photographer's privacy.

ETA: or what Milkduds said

chattychiqa

Ew. Offended? Maybe not, but annoyed for sure. Delete and block.

ski2play

silly me, I understand. 

crash2729

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_am-over-reacting-this-seems-really-offensive?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:67e43b1f-a77c-4a6a-936f-7e2a82ab6ed1Post:49ee005f-834c-435b-8d2d-560e48767652">Re: Am I over-reacting? This seems really offensive</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I'm more offended that they charge $1000/hour.</strong> But yea, that seems pretty strange. The only response I think I would give is: "Thank you, but we will be styling our own wedding and looking for photography elsewhere." I'm a little snarky like that though.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly. That's insane. </div><div>
If you want to I guess you could go back and ask him how much he would charge for photography only because you will be styling your own wedding. That's if he's one of your top people you want to use. </div><div>
Other wise I would move on and find someone else.</div>

MyUserName1

That is crap.

I'm going to charge you through the nose, but I don't think you'll pick a dress and shiit that's nice enough, so Imma tell you what to wear too.

Its offensive.  And stupid.  I wonder how many clients he actually gets.

raypoppins

I dont know about offensive but it is pretty dumb. I would just ignore it. I saw the pictures and they were nice but not $1000/hr nice.

mfeo24

I removed the link b/c last week I whined about photographers and got called a vendor. I'd personally be happy to publicly flame him, but that's probably not the best option here.  I think I'll take rachers' suggestion of how to reply, I like that

OliveOilsMom

At 1000/hour, he better be paying for all of his styling!  I am having a Philadelphia based photographer and she is not charging me anywhere near that!  That man be cra cra. . .

tenofcups4me

I don't find it "offensive," more just ridiculous. The price is insane and I wouldn't at all be interested in a photographer "styling" my wedding.

Habs2Hart

Ummm... $1000/hr?  Those pics were nice, but not drop dead holy crap amazeballs.  They better be beyond drop dead holy crap amazeballs for $1000/hr. 

NuggetBrain

Unless your photographer is Annie Leibovitz that price is ridiculous.

adktd2boots

I would respond with something like "You're paying me $1,000/hr as I help you get published?  OK!  In that case, let's document the whole darned day, from morning through night."  And when he tells you you've got it backwards, tell him he's backwards and he can shove it-  but make sure he's got that one styled perfectly too.

bandjwedding2012

Holy crap, I can't imagine paying him that much an hour. And he gets to style my wedding. I would have sent him a price sheet back on what styling my wedding would cost him. You know things like if you get color choice it costs this much and so on. But I'm sort of a smart a** that way.

MyUserName1

Heh, mfeo.  You're a snarky biitch.  And that is a compliment.

Please post his response (:

MyUserName1

I guess it is if she looks really dumb?

It sounds to me like they were saying that she looks stupid but isn't?

I probably talk dumber than I look...

mollyehren

Honestly I would maybe call him maybe there was a discoonnect in communication. I would make it very clear what you do and do not want and ask what the charge would be. The only thing I can think of is by taking a small project of 1-2 hours it might be pulling him away from another potential event where he could make so much more....so he jacks the price up to make it worth it probably hoping you will decline.

bandjwedding2012

Well now I'm just curious how you're going to respond this his response now. It's a boring day at work, and this is been fun to read.