Invite??

scalhoun125

I will try to explain this scenario as best as I can....hope someone can follow and help me out

My MOH works at a salon. Her good friend is a hair stylist there. I have known her friend for years through things I have done with my MOH (parties we have been too, other weddings, gatherings, etc). I asked my MOH if I should ask this friend to do my hair and make-up for my wedding. Well she thought I should and she asked her for me. (This was probably mistake and may have caused part of this problem) I guess the 2 of them discussed details and assumed that she would come to the wedding location to do my hair/make-up since its 45 min from the salon.

I ended up seeing this friend last week at an event. When she was introducing her husband to my fiance she said, "she asked me to do her hair for her wedding, so WE will be going to her wedding in may!"

So there lies the issue.....
We have a budget for this wedding and I wasn't planning on inviting her (or her husband for that matter) to the wedding. I would definitely pay her extra for driving 45 min. to do my hair/makeup, but I wasn't planning on inviting her to the wedding.
Am I wrong? Should I be inviting her? And her husband? She would be there for hours before the wedding- what would her husband do??

At the moment she made this comment I did not know what to say...
Therefore, if I don't have to invite her, how should I go about this?

Thanks for the help!

lyndausvi

Unless it was a super small wedding I would be inclined to invite an acquaintance who is traveling 45 minutes one-way to be one of my vendors.  

That said, I do not think it's wrong if you do not invite her. 

danieliza1127

If she was just a paid vendor and nothing more, then no you wouldn't invite her at all.  Your situation is tricky though because she's kind of a friend.  You see her at social functions, she's good friends with your MOH.  I can see where she would assume she's invited.  Honestly, if it were me, I would just go ahead and invite her and her husband.  You're not wrong if you choose not too but I imagine it will cause some hurt feelings and you could end up losing her as your hair and make-up person if you don't invite her.

garcias1

Yeah, at this point, I would say you should just invite her.  Two people isn't that much more to budget for.  Is she charging you to do your hair and makeup?  If she was going to drive 45 minutes one-way to do your hair and makeup for free, than the least you could do is invite her.  If she is charging you, then she is more of a vendor, and you could get away with not inviting her.  But like PPs said, be prepared for hurt feelings and for her to back out of the wedding.

scalhoun125

yea, I feel like it's tricky. we haven't discussed anything about prices or whether she is charging me or not. I guess I can start there and talk with her about that. I can find someone else to do my hair/make-up if I need to. But since she is kind of a friend and someone i see every so often it would be very weird if I change my mind on her all together (so I didn't feel obligated to invite her).

Thanks for the advice!