Do we invite her husband?

Dpreschel

Hello!  This is my first post. I am in a sticky situation.  So, my friend and her husand set up my fiance and I.  Since then, her husband ended his friendship with my fiance via email for no good reason, therefore, my fiance and I are not his biggest fan & my friend is well aware & understanding of this.  Anyway, do we invite him to the wedding or just her.  I do not want him there, but it is totally disrespectful to my friend not to invite him.  Part of me doesn't think she would be surprised & the other part thinks she will be totally offended.

Any help/input would be very much appreciated!!!

Mrs.B6302007

Yes.  Spouses get invited.

Habs2Hart

Yes, he must be invited.  However, he may choose to decline.  It is up to him though. 

mbody

Yes, you need to invite him along with her. Send one invitation with both their names on it. If he doesn't come, that's his choice.

MyUserName1

Social units must be invited together.

He didn't try to sleep with you or beat up you or your FI.  He gets invited if she does.

staceycaine

I don't even have to read this to say yes.

RamonaFlowers

Unless the guy has physically assaulted/done something illegal against you or your FI, I don't even know why you'd be asking this question.

Surely, there is somebody that you are friends with that isn't all that crazy about your FI (Or somebody friends with your FI that isn't too fond of you). If this person were to get married and when sending out the invitations said "Hmm, Dpreschel's FI is a good friend, but I can't stand Dpreschel ... so I'm only going to invite FI to my wedding" or "Dpreschel is awesome ... but that FI of hers is a jerk, so I'm only inviting her", how would that make you feel? You'd probably be pretty offended by such rude behavior and then decline the invitation (As would your FI if he were the one invited).

So you don't like the guy, big deal. Lots of people don't like somebody or other that they had to invite. Invite them both. If he shows up, say "Hi, thanks for coming" and go on about your business.

rebarobert2012

You do need to invite her husband.  They are a social unit, and it would be very rude to invite her and not him.  If he and your fiance had a falling out, he will likely decline the invitation.  But it should be his decision.

tenofcups4me

The "etiquette" answer is that you have to invite him.

In real life, hell no, I would not invite someone who actively went out of their way to end our friendship, in writing no less.

But that's only if the email really just said something like, hey I never want to see you again. If you guys do all maintain some sort of contact, even if it's awkward, then yes, I'd invite him.

Dpreschel

Thank you very much for your input!  You all have helped a lot & reassured me that inviting him was right.  I have had a few friends tell me that we shouldn't invite him, so I was looking for outside opinions.  Thanks again!

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invite-her-husband?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:697a2369-bac3-4b3e-9f94-880b0250cdfaPost:598a9acb-d067-47dd-816c-ef40523ddb3e">Re: Do we invite her husband?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you very much for your input!  You all have helped a lot & reassured me that inviting him was right.  I have had a few friends tell me that we shouldn't invite him, so I was looking for outside opinions.  Thanks again!
Posted by Dpreschel[/QUOTE]

whee!

I love this thread!  No arguing from OP!

midgetthemighty

MUNI, this made me smile.