volunteer expiration date?

hugz415

I have been engaged for 1.5 yrs and the wedding is the end of next month. yea.  Anyway, last summer I attended my cousin's wedding.  My uncle's gf, who I am semi-close with, explained that she had done the toiletries basket in the ladies room and that she wanted to do the same for my wedding.  I told her of course she could.  Now that the wedding is coming up, is it rude for me to ask her if she still wants to do it?  It's not a big deal and I would do it myself but what if she brings a basket and then feels bad that I "forgot" she was going to make one?  But I feel like asking puts her on the spot and feels like I'm making her do it, despite the fact that she volunteered a while back.  I know this is a lame subject. Sorry.

angiebear11

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[QUOTE] Now that the wedding is coming up, is it rude for me to ask her if she still wants to do it? 
Posted by hugz415[/QUOTE]

No. She offered. I see nothing wrong with asking if the offer is still on the table.

georgia_bride09

Why not just NOT make them and if she brings some, great. They are the single least necessary thing at a wedding ever.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Why not just NOT make them and if she brings some, great. They are the single least necessary thing at a wedding ever.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

I completely agree with this.

hugz415

True.  They are def not a necessity.  Sounds like a plan! Thanks for reading my lame-o post!

brilibby4

Maybe I'm an idiot but I don't get it.  What is a "toiletries basket"?

I Want Cake

I'd just ask her so you know one way or the other.  If she volunteered to do it and the wedding is this close, you need to know who's going to come through with what.  It's not badgering if you're just calling to confirm.

hugz415

A toiletries basket is a basket of items like hairspray, tampons, mouthwash, etc. that you put out for your guests to use in the ladies room at your reception. 

pooh8402

agree that you should just not make them and see if she shows up with them. my mom actually brought a toiletries basket for the ladies' room, but she and I had never even discussed nor had I ever voiced a desire for it.

mags0607

pooh- your new picture is beautiful. You look gorgeous.

OP- just give it a little while, don't make them, and if she shows up with them, great. If not, you probably won't miss them.

pooh8402

oh thank you dear!

brilibby4

Oh thanks hugz!  That makes sense!