inviting people to e-party but not to wedding?

abt87

My fiancée and FFIL really wanted to host an engagement party at FFIL's cabin outside their hometown. It's not a formal party by any means but most of the invitees are FI bc the cabin is a long haul from where all of my friends live. So I wasn't attached to this party idea and therefore just let the men handle the details bc they really wanted to do it. The invites were via Facebook and I looked at the ppl invited and there were around 10-15 ppl that FI invited that aren't on our wedding guest list. (They have yet to confirm their attendance to the party though...) Not to mention they are friends whom I've never met or have only met once. So now is it recommended to invite these people to the wedding, when we are thisclose to maxing out?

Simply Fated

Your fiancé needs to fix this, either by answering them when ask about going to the wedding... Or you can just make it a fun party, leaving the wedding aspect out of it.

KatePlusNate04

Yes, anyone invited to pre-wedding parties needs a wedding invitation. If you wanted to make sure this didn't happen, you should have bee more involved with the guest list . Hindsight is 20/20 and what's done is done, but it would be rude to exclude them from the wedding now.

eseney82

This actually happened to my fiance and I last year.  We were close friends with the Bride, and invited to the e-party.  Then, time came around to get the wedding invitation and we never got one...same for some other mutual friends that attended the e-party.  This was extremely rude, and needless to say we did not invite them to our e-party, and will not be inviting them to our wedding. 

abt87

Thanks ladies! This is what I was thinking and I'm not too happy. Guess that's my own fault for letting the men plan