How to Address Save the Dates

jessicalynn416

I'm sending out Save the Dates next month or in early October so I'm starting to put together my guest list. I have a couple friends that I know will be invited but I'm not sure how to address the envelopes. They are all currently in relationships, however, they have a history of relationship bouncing. I know couples no matter how long they've been dating are invited to the wedding when the invites go out so whoever they're dating at that time will be invited with them. There is just a good chance it isn't who they are dating now...Do the Save the Dates go out to just our friend? Or do they go out to both and will change with the invites if they're no longer in a relationship? 

MyUserName1

I'd send the save the dates to just the friends, then put whomever they are dating when the invitations go out on their invitation. 

If any of them say anything i'd say "oh, of course Johnny is invited! I just only addressed it to you since you're the only one who lives there!"

TaraMc728

I believ for the time being, since it is a STD, just the friends name will suffice.  Just make sure to get their SO's name when it comes to the invitation.

jessicalynn416

Thanks! I wasn't sure on the best way to do this. A few of them are the date for two weeks, we're in love forever, and in another month its over types. While a few relationships work out like this (our GM's brother married his wife after 3 weeks and they're going on 13 years) most won't and I didn't want the no longer SO to be offended if they're not invited but our friend's new SO is. 

banana468

What about telling them that they'll get a plus one or putting an insert in the invitation stating that they'll be invited to bring a date?

I'm not a fan of only addressing it to the primary friend and not saying that dates are welcome because that can lead to thinking that the friend will be invited solo.

jessicalynn416

@banana468 would that imply that they can bring a date if they're not in relationship at the time the invites go out? We're only having guests if the person is in a relationship. We did plan on calling and letting them know they could bring a new SO if they started dating someone after the invites go out as long as it was before our numbers due. Not sure if I explained that well!

jlunger

I sent mine out about a week ago and I sent it to the friend when Isend out the invitations I will address it as Ms. Erica Smith and Guest.  No one has said anything and I dont think they will.