Extend a Last Minute Invite to a New Friend

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Is there a way to politely extend a last minute invite to a new friend?

I've been thinking that I would like to invite a classmate of mine to our wedding. We're in school part time, but have been in classes together over the last few semesters. She wasn't on the initial guest list because we weren't very close, but we're becoming closer as the semester wears on. Perhaps we're bonding over wedding stuff, since we talk a lot about it. She's getting married in May (and AFAIK, I'm not invited).

She's knows that my invitations went out, and obviously I didn't have her address to send her one. Is there a way to invite her now, or should I just forget it?

I'm sure she doesn't expect to be invited, FWIW, but I don't want to make it seem like I B-listed her. We're probably over where we wanted to be for our guest list, but we and the venue can afford two more.

ETA: The wedding is in just over six weeks, if that makes any difference.

AddieCake

I ended up doing that with the young lady who was my student teacher at the time. Invitations had already gone out, but she and I had actually known each other for a long time (she had been a student IN my class 8 years before), and working together we became pretty close very quickly, and I decided I wanted her there. I just handed her an invitation one day. 

jessicabessica

I would not invite her if you don't think she's inviting you.  I think she will feel like she has to invite you since your weddings are so close together.  Not that weddings are tit for tat, but if you've been talking weddings together and weren't planning to invite each other, I think it could make things awkward.  

If you disagree or don't care, I think it's not too late to send her an invitation, but do it ASAP (like, today).

Xstatic3333

I have a similar relationship with one of my grad school friends. I love chatting wedding with her, but know I'm not invited to hers and am not planning to invite her to mine. It's a little awkward at times! I try to avoid wedding chat but when she brings it up I am easily sucked in. I'm not sure the official etiquette answer, but I empathize with the situation.

RWolff

I will just say that this situation came up with a coworker. I started work after her invites went out, ut we quickly became friends through our jobs in the month leading up to her wedding. I was not invited, and was not insulted. But now, 2 years later, she is a BM in my wedding, and has said on more than one occasion that she wishes I had been there. She certainly did not do anything wrong not extending a late invite, so don't worry about that. But if you think you will continue to spend time together, you could hand her an invite and say that you would love to have her share the day with you.