I'll preface this post by saying that I have only sent out save the dates for my wedding and that I did not put "and guest" on any of them.
My wedding is a very small, intimate destination wedding. A few of the friends I've invited are single. I verbally told them in passing that they would be given a plus one to bring a date. I have now had a couple of people tell me that they are planning to bring a samesex friend along as their "plus one" none of whom are mutual friends.
I don't want to be rude to these guests, but the reason our wedding is so small is that we want only those who are closest to us there, not a bunch of strangers. Plus, we already had to cut a lot of people from our list who we would have loved to invite including relatives and don't know how we'd explain this situation to them. I verbally told these people that they'd get to bring a date many months ago a with the thought that they may have a significant other come the wedding date and b before I realized how limited our venue truly is.
It seems passive aggressive to just wait until we send the invitation and not put "and guest" without giving them a heads up. But, is it rude to call them and tell them that we are thrilled they're coming and know they will have a great time as will the guest traveling but hope they understand that the friend won't be able to attend the rehearsal dinner or wedding? If we were having a 300 person wedding this would be a totally different story...
Any thoughts would be very much appreciated!