Announcement Question

suzie2669

I got engaged 3 months ago and did not send out announcements. My Mother is still nagging me to do but I feel uncomfortable as we weren't having an engagement party. We couldn't afford to throw one and no one offerered to throw one for us. I did register and told both my Mother and his Mom. The topic came up again when others recently confronted us saying that they havent bought us a gift yet as they werent sure if we were having a party. My question is this, should I send out an Engagement Announcement and maybe just make note that a Save The Date will follow?? 

ootmother2

No. Engagements are announced in your newspaper or at an engagement party or both.

It's poor etiquette to host your own engagement party.

Wedding announcements may be sent in the mail but never engagement announcements.

dramanut0410

This is what I'm did/doing:
Had an announcements in the paper, and I'm sending out just simple save the date cards out to everyone. Just saying keeping this date open because the bride and groom are getting married. More information to follow. This way my bases are covered for people who live locally to us, and those who out of town and don't get the same paper as we do.

But if your not having an engagement party- it's okay! Brides can do many different things when it comes to their wedding. Engagement parties and showers ( wedding or baby) shouldn't be thrown the bride or soon to be mother. It's an old tradition for a female family member to throw a shower for the bride or soon to be mother because it was thought to be the bride or soon to be mother was being "showered" by gifts from loved one.

tenofcups4me

DItto the others -- no mailed announcements. But certainly your mom and FMIL can put out the word that there isn't going to be a party (so that if anyone is interested in getting you an engagement gift, they can go ahead and do it at any time, though of course they wouldn't actually say that to anyone!). My ex- and I didn't have an engagement party, but got engagement gifts from all my family, some of his family, and most of my parents' friends and my friends.