Bridesmaid Chose Wedding Date for 2 Weeks After Our Wedding

lazybride21

No, I didn't read the rules and I never use the boards to generate business. In fact, I have never used the boards until today and clearly it's for personal reasons...I am actually getting married.

 I joined TK years ago to keep up with current wedding trends because it's relevant to my industry. NEVER have I received business or even tried to solicit business. I have never communicated with anyone or done anything other than look at pictures of wedding dresses. I suppose there isn't a single wedding vendor that never looked at this site. 

Please, ban me....a majority of this thread was filled with bullshit responses of "why did you cut your honeymoon short"...that is not advice! Lame!

mwhitson14

Andplusalso, maybe she thought about you having an awesome two week HM and decided it would be awesome and decided to do it herself.

mwhitson14

Aww aren't you a peach.

JessAndTrav

Neither did likefrankiesaid. Then she got banned.

It's just part of the rules, whether you solicit or not. Vendors are not allowed on the message boards. Now, you could smarten up, make a new account and never mention what you do and it'll be fine. But it's the moderator's job to keep vendors out.

And-plus-also, you may not like the responses given. But it's true. YOU shouldn't cut back YOUR honeymoon to be a part of somebody else's wedding. I get that she's your friend, but she should have known going into choosing a date 2 weeks after your wedding risked your ability to attend. I'm not going to a wedding that I was invited to the Saturday after my wedding because I will be on my honeymoon. And my FIs cousin almost set her wedding day to also be the week after my wedding and I told her that we wouldn't be able to go if she did that.

So there you have it.

JessAndTrav

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-chose-wedding-date-2-weeks-after-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6d84b4b2-940b-480a-944f-c5e4d222148fPost:d5aa7acd-dbf5-4e4d-b320-8729ce26ab27">Re: Bridesmaid Chose Wedding Date for 2 Weeks After Our Wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Aww aren't you a peach.
Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]

C'mon, whit. She's a SUFFERING BRIDE, here. Her bridesmaid chose a wedding within two weeks of hers---that ruins everything!

mwhitson14

I know, that chick is a total biatch.

Btw, is that you in your siggy? DId you get bridal portraits done?

janedoe1113a

Just because we're not validating that your friend is a bitch, doesn't make our answers suck.  You friend can plan her wedding for whenever she wants.  2 weeks is plenty of times between weddings.  Just because she asked you to be her BM doesn't mean you have to drop everything.  You could have respectfully declined.

Also, it doesn't matter whether you solicit business.  If you're planning your own wedding, that is fine, but you can not mention that you are a wedding vendor on here.  That is rules for banning.

So, if you want to use the knot to plan your wedding, you should create another account and never mention that you are a photographer ever again.

JessAndTrav

Yes ma'am. That's the one I'm having printed as a 16" x 20"

I really lovvvvve it.

lazybride21

Snarky brides = so original.

Obviously, none of you can READ. The question was how to get the BM to stop whining. I never said it ruined anything. I was trying to make things less complicated...but none of you got the point. 

Perhaps if you spent less time trying to be witty and stopped making the assumption that my whole world revolves around a wedding, then maybe you would get the point.

But I should've known better considering how much time you ladies spend talking on these boards talking about lame crap and ridiculing people for no apparent reason.

mwhitson14

I do too! I've had a photog offer to do some for me for free to build her portfolio, but I haven't decided yet.

mwhitson14

DAMMIT! Why did no one tell me I couldn't read? FFS guys, here I've been, actually being a teacher and teaching reading, and no one bothered to tell me I can't read myself.

[QUOTE]The question was how to get the BM to stop whining[/QUOTE]

Duct tape her mouth?

janedoe1113a

You can't make her stop whining.  If she wants to whine, she wants to whine.  Don't listen!

And Whit, you should totally do them!

mwhitson14

I know, I've been thinking about it. I need to get a quote on how much it's going to cost to get my hair, make up, and nails done, and then we'll see.

janedoe1113a

You could do your trial on the day of the pictures, so your money would be worthwhile.

lazybride21

I didn't ask you or anyone else to validate anything NavyBaby. There you go assuming again. I don't think my BM is a "biatch". I think the situation is complicated and I'm trying to resolve it. 

TK boards must be a place for people to be judgmental and incapable of reading a very clear statement. 

mwhitson14

Good idea, mainly because I have no idea how I'm going to wear my hair. I keep telling myself I'm going to let it grow and then I get sick of it and whack it off.

JessAndTrav

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-chose-wedding-date-2-weeks-after-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6d84b4b2-940b-480a-944f-c5e4d222148fPost:6b1a42e7-c943-4293-8809-5c6e124ccd1a">Re: Bridesmaid Chose Wedding Date for 2 Weeks After Our Wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Snarky brides = so original. Obviously, none of you can READ. The question was how to get the BM to stop whining. I never said it ruined anything. I was trying to make things less complicated...but none of you got the point.  Perhaps if you spent less time trying to be witty and stopped making the assumption that my whole world revolves around a wedding, then maybe you would get the point. But I should've known better considering how much time you ladies spend talking on these boards talking about lame crap and ridiculing people for no apparent reason.
Posted by lazybride21[/QUOTE]


It's crazy that I can't read. I thought that was necessary before aquiring a college degree.

But then again, I went to clown college.

How to make her stop whining? Kill her.

Duhhhhhhh.

In reality, lazymegabitchbride, I don't want to answer your ridiculous question. We responded to your first complaint about her because it's ridiculous. While it didn't "ruin" anything for you, you made that the primary topic of your post, so clearly you feel that she's ruining stuff for you.

And PS: This isn't the snarky bride board. Can't you read?

JessAndTrav

Whit -
Definitely use the person who's offering them for free. Our photographer included engagements in our package, and someone asked to take ours to build their portfolio---we loved them so much we never even did the session with our actual photographer.

mwhitson14

Well, I can't afford the photog that is asking to do them for free, which makes me mucho sad because she's amazing. So that's one reason I would like to do them.

JessAndTrav

That definitely makes sense. Go for it!

lazybride21

JessandTrav:

How ironic that things like "lazymegabitchbride" are said on the etiquette board. Asking a simple question definitely merits being called some boring hateful phrases...

Just because I gave the history of the situation does not mean I feel like my wedding or anything else has been ruined for me. Perhaps your self-consumed narcissism led you to that conclusion but it's far from the truth.

And I'm glad you want to brag about having a college degree...I suppose I should start bragging about having a Masters or working on my doctorate. Having degrees doesn't make you smart...and bragging about having them just proves your a bore (which I'm sure your FH can attest to after you have sex)...how about that for snark (do you even know what that word means"

janedoe1113a

Wtf is up with people calling people out on their sex life?  Is this the same person as last night?

ThePinkSuperhero

My advice: back out on your friend's wedding and go on your honeymoon.

mwhitson14

No, but letting you know she has a degree means she can read. Or have you already forgotten what you accused us of not being able to do?

mwhitson14

Oh I totally missed that navy! No, that was isnatural4me. Why are posters doing that? It's so odd!

janedoe1113a

Seriously, maybe it's the same person creating a bunch of different trolls.

JessAndTrav

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-chose-wedding-date-2-weeks-after-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6d84b4b2-940b-480a-944f-c5e4d222148fPost:cdb72d96-310e-47e0-8372-b078e703f709">Re: Bridesmaid Chose Wedding Date for 2 Weeks After Our Wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]JessandTrav: How ironic that things like "lazymegabitchbride" are said on the etiquette board. Asking a simple question definitely merits being called some boring hateful phrases... Just because I gave the history of the situation does not mean I feel like my wedding or anything else has been ruined for me. Perhaps your self-consumed narcissism led you to that conclusion but it's far from the truth. And I'm glad you want to brag about having a college degree...I suppose I should start bragging about having a Masters or working on my doctorate. Having degrees doesn't make you smart...and bragging about having them just proves your a bore (which I'm sure your FH can attest to after you have sex)...how about that for snark (do you even know what that word means"
Posted by lazybride21[/QUOTE]

Woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow.

My feelings are so hurt because you're better than me. And yes, I was bragging about having a college degree, not noting that if I have one that probably means that I can read.

And as for the sex life comment, really? Really? I would think that one who is getting their doctorate would be able to think of something more intelligent than a sex-related insult.

WOE IS ME!!!!

lazybride21

I'm well aware of what I accused you of...and it's a well founded accusation considering the course of this thread.

NavyBaby: I'm just stooping to the same level as the majority of people participating. Once it became clear that intelligent discourse was not welcomed here (as indicated by the name calling and sarcasm).

mwhitson14

Jess, did you see the post from last night by isnatural4me? That was her insult to salt too, was something about how bad her sex life must be.

Is this like the new, "I feel sorry for your FI?" Because it's so juvenile it kinda makes me wonder if a group of middle school kids got a hold of the knot and decided to start posting.

Mrs.B6302007

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