Un-inviting someone? :/

carrieloomis

So  my fiance and I sent out STD's a few months ago. Since then, we have not been in contact (none whatsoever) with a couple of people we sent them to. Is it ok to not invite them to the wedding even though we sent them a STD? 

mica178

No

PetalPockets2012

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[QUOTE]So  my fiance and I sent out STD's a few months ago. Since then, we have not been in contact (none whatsoever) with a couple of people we sent them to. Is it ok to not invite them to the wedding even though we sent them a STD? 
Posted by carrieloomis[/QUOTE]

Nope. Everyone who was sent a STD must be invited.

MyUserName1

It is not "okay." It's actually pretty rude.

However, if you DO NOT WANT to be friends with these people in the future WHATSOEVER, there is little point inviting them to the wedding. But it is likely a friendship ending move.

froggatt.clare

Sorry, Save the Date means invite, so to not send one is rude.

I can go months without talking to my close friends, but they're still invited to my wedding, for what its worth.  If you really are no longer friends, they will likely decline the invitation.

lbarr088

That's pretty much like saying, "Hey there's this really cool party that we are throwing on such and such a date in such and such a place.  Just want to let you know!  But you can't come..."

Habs2Hart

It's incredibly rude to un-invite someone.  Think about how that sounds.  Un-invite. 

That's why we caution people about sending STD's, because they are an invitation. 

Carla1019

If they are not responding to you now, when you send out the invitations they won't RSVP "yes" and therefore not coming.

Problem solved.

carrieloomis

Ok thanks! I was just wondering... we haven't talked to these people since we got engaged, but I'll send them invitations anyways. Thanks!

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]It's incredibly rude to un-invite someone.  Think about how that sounds.  Un-invite.  <strong>That's why we caution people about sending STD's, because they are an invitation. </strong>
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

Yeeep.  That's the one thing I would change so far is not sending STDs to every single person/family we wanted to originally invite.  There are about 10 people on our list now that we probably wouldn't invite at this point.  But we still will.

mbody

If someone gets a STD then they must get an invitation. If you aren't talking with them now, maybe they'll just RSVP no.

rebarobert2012

If someone receives a save-the-date, they must also receive an invitation to the wedding.

RaptorSLH

You thought they were important enough to invite at one time.  Try working on the friendships outside of a wedding context, until you remember why.

mrspereyda2012

If the dont feel close to you they prob wont show, if they do you might have to re-evaluate maybe if they care for you so much as to make sure they attend your wedding, they are good people after all....