Registering for gift cards

marci78

I am the Matron of Honor for a friend and am throwing her a bridal shower.  She is not registering, because they are not in need of anything on a traditional registry.  They are in the process of remodeling the house that they just purchased and would like cash or Lowe's gift cards to make their house a home.  Is there a tactful way of putting this on the invitation?  It will clearly say that the shower is being thrown by me, so it is like I am asking the guests for gift cards instead of her.  Should I just say that they are not registering?

Rummi302

The point of a shower is to shower the bride with physical gifts. She should either register for such gifts or you should host a tea instead (or other non-gift giving event).

amymaysa

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[QUOTE]I am the Matron of Honor for a friend and am throwing her a bridal shower.  She is not registering, because they are not in need of anything on a traditional registry.  They are in the process of remodeling the house that they just purchased and would like cash or Lowe's gift cards to make their house a home.  Is there a tactful way of putting this on the invitation?  It will clearly say that the shower is being thrown by me, so it is like I am asking the guests for gift cards instead of her.  Should I just say that they are not registering?
Posted by marci78[/QUOTE]

You shouldn't throw a shower for her if there will be no gifts. The point is to 'shower' the bride with gifts.
I personally think it doesn't matter who's hosting the event, asking for cash/gift cards is just rude.

marci78

Yes, and she was not rude with her response...Thank you!

mari0225

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Registering for gift cards : So if we're rude, we're being rude.  If we're nice, we're... also being rude?
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Apparently so

mari0225

Eagles has a great idea, but no one else was rude to you at all.

redheadfsu

Rude?! what are you talking about?  Welcome to the internet! Why is everyone wanting puppies & rainbows today?

The internet is not for you, if you thought this thread rude.

MrsMack10612

Does anybody know - can you do registries or wishlists at Home Depot or Lowes?  Or would that be inappropriate?

I know you can do registries on Amazon - so maybe you could have register for home improvement items there.

chelseamb11

Or maybe your friend could go to Lowes and register for some things they know they're going to want that's more buyable like lamps and stuff?  That way people would still have a registry to go off of.

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]Does anybody know - can you do registries or wishlists at Home Depot or Lowes?  Or would that be inappropriate? I know you can do registries on Amazon - so maybe you could have register for home improvement items there.
Posted by kjhowd[/QUOTE]

We registered at home depot. Pretty sure Lowes does one too

SparrowSong

A bride opening a bunch of gift cards sounds like the most boring shower ever. 

Sorry, but, seriously...

mollyehren

I would register for physical home improvement stuff unless the bride wants an endless supply of bath and bodyworks stuff and lingerie.  When there is not a registry that is what everyone seems to bring,

rebekahj81

Asking for JUST gift cards, notsomuch a good idea for a shower. Registering for items like lamps and such at HD or Lowe's (as suggested above) is a good idea for a few reasons:

1. They have nice lamps at Lowe's.

2. When people don't have the time to shop your registry (or all the items are expensive or boring - Dyson vac or three spatulas?) they will often get you a gift card to the store you've registered at. A Lowe's registry clues guests in to where you want to shop.

3. It's different and fun! I'd TOTALLY register for a bag of grout if that's what I needed. And I would be the first in line to buy the bride a bag of grout if that's what she registered for.

(Disclaimer: my fiance is a contractor. We love this stuff.)

vexie

Hubby and I got married this past June.  It was an 'encore wedding' for both of us so we are not in need of many things, especially all the smaller items such as towels, small appliances etc.  My MOH and sisters organized the shower and invited the guests to contribute towards a larger group gift.  It was really great!  No one was under any obligation to contribute anything... and how much they gave was completely up to them and anonymous (from what I heard they just put money into a cardbox).  A few brought their own gifts, most contributed and in the end they gave us 12 place settings of our good dishes (not the good china lol) and a fire pit for the back yard, plus we were given all the extra as cash to spend as we wanted.   I'm not sure etiquette-wise if that was a no-no, but many women mentioned how much they loved the idea... because it took away the stress of knowing what to get us when we didn't need any of the smaller items and it allowed us to get items that we normally wouldn't spend the money on    Maybe you can do something similar if there's a specific larger item you know they'd want or need?  You'd just have to be prepared to pay out whatever wasn't given by the guests because I'm sure it would be rude to make everyone pay a set amount towards the gift unless everyone agreed in advance.