Barbeque?

allen31540

I have a question about rehearsal dinner. 

We are a country life, simple couple.  Although our wedding is going to be fairly formal and traditional and the reception will also be, I really just want a backyard barbeque type rehearsal dinner. 

All of our wedding party are close family and friends who have been to our home and us to theirs many times.  I feel like we are all more comfortable with that than a fancy formal dinner.  Most of the wedding party is helping me extensively with the wedding and that close to the wedding I don't think anyone really has time to get beautiful to go out to dinner.

My question is would there be anything inappropriate about a jeans and t-shirt rehearsal and backyard barbeque dinner although the wedding is somewhat formal?

opalsky007

Nope. Sounds like a blast!

ehathewa

I think that is fine.  Just be sure to let you guests know how to dress for the event.  The Rehearsal Dinner Invites can specify that it will be a Backyard BBQ and that should let everyone know. 

Our wedding is pretty formal and traditional, and we are having the rehearsal at Pizza Hut. 

mandysmear

sounds awesome!  can i come?

SheDiva4

No this is totally appropriate, I think a barbecue is a great idea.  I think your WP will appreciate not having to get all pretty for the rehearsal dinner.  We are having a bowling party with bar food, mini burgers, chicken wings, etc.  I know my WP will like the relaxed casual atmosphere the night before

allen31540

It would be no problem letting them know how to dress.  We see or talk to our entire wedding party almost daily.  I just did not want to seem incredibly cheap.  I have no problem taking them to dinner, but the ones who I have spoke with concerning this seem to prefer the grill.  Even for other occasions, when we party with our friends and family it is usually in someone's yard or house.

stacy&tige

I've never like the formal, dressy rehearsal dinner. Save that for the wedding day. Our rehearsal dinner is going to be a family style italian dinner. One big table, lots of good food, wine and our families.

Your idea sounds great. If I was going I'd be so happy that it was a casual, relaxing affair. Mmmmmmm...BBQ!

megk8oz

I don't see a problem with this.

Then again, I had a formal wedding and I held my RD at a local Five Guys, so there's that.

allen31540

Thank you all for your input.  I appreciate it. 

emilyinchile

Personally, if I know the next day's full of formalities and dressing up and being on parade to a certain extent, I love taking a chance to just kick back and relax with close friends the night before. Sounds like a great plan.

temerityjane

I love BBQ. I will eat it in a boat and I will eat it in a moat. And in a fancy dress, if the occasion calls for it.

laladypoet

I think it's awesome. and it shows that you're not a snob, ya know?

susieq87

I just went to an out of town wedding, so we were invited to the RD too. It was an outback bbq at his parents house on a lake. All I can say was we had a blast! It was relaxing, fun, and everyone had a good time because it wasn't formal at all. It was a nice way for everyone to relax and chill the night before. The only thing I can say is that depending on the season, I would look into getting the property sprayed with bug spray a week or so before. Everyone got bit by bugs and was scratching all the next day at the wedding!

LesPaul

Sounds good.  I'm in.

allen31540

I guess that is pretty unanimous.  Susieq- that is already been looked into.  We plan to fog the area that day, but it will be mostly on gazebo and concrete. 

Emilyinchile- That is what I was thinking about.  We have enough to do and enough dressing up the next day without everyone having to be formal the night before too. 

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We ordered pizza from Pizza Hut and ate on the front porch of the cabin where the wedding was being held for our RD. Everyone was in shorts and T-shirts, and just hung out and talked about the wedding. Your RD doesn't have to be some huge fancy affair.

A BBQ sounds awesome. If the cabin we'd stayed at had a grill, we'd of been cooking up some burgers and hot dogs instead of settling for pizza for sure.