Asking to Bring a Plus One

kgrunow

I am a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding and the invite arrived at our house address to my parents, sister, and me. There was no mention of my FI.

What is a poliet way to ask if he is invited?

[Deleted User]

Does she know that you are engaged, too?

Call her up and remind her that you are engaged and your FI will be coming with you. It might have just been an honest mistake on her part. I am sure it won't be a big deal.

kgrunow

I think it was a mistake because she has mentioned him being there. I was just wondering if there was a way to bring it up to avoid embarrassment on her part.

[Deleted User]

Just tell her you noticed that he wasn't included on the invite and that you assume it was an honest mistake. No big deal. I am sure she will understand. If anything, I doubt she will be embarrassed if it is just between you and her. She will probably just apologize and tell you that she can't wait to see you both.

kgrunow

Thanks for the advice

MiddlesexFells

Wasn't there just a post [<---click there] about a parent-set and two adult sisters all living in the same house, one with a bf, who were sent separate invitations (and bf was included), but the two sisters' invites were returned? Parents rsvp'd for the four of them, but not the bf, and the bride was afraid of having offended.

Maybe that was you she was talking about!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Technically it's her faux pas, so just bring it up in a non-accusatory way and you'll be fine.

salsamcg

This kind of happened to us in a wedding my FI was in this past November. It was mailed to him only even though we'd been living together for almost a year at the time.  He just called the groom up and asked. It wasn't a big deal at all.

squeakyduck

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_asking-bring-plus-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6ec9cd4e-cf4c-467c-a60c-397fdb33e21fPost:3a5cb1f1-470a-430d-a388-c61f9706ca8f">Re: Asking to Bring a Plus One</a>:
[QUOTE]Wasn't there just a post [<---click there] about a parent-set and two adult sisters all living in the same house, one with a bf, who were sent separate invitations (and bf was included), but the two sisters' invites were returned? Parents rsvp'd for the four of them, but not the bf, and the bride was afraid of having offended. Maybe that was you she was talking about!
Posted by MiddlesexFells[/QUOTE]

<div>Hahaha. Don't think so since those girls aren't in my WP. </div>