Should I Call?

libby2483

Our venue needs to know not just the number of each entree we need, but what each particular guest is having.  On our RSVP card, we wrote, "Please initial each guest's entree choice."  However, several guests are just putting numbers by the entree selections rather than initials.  On EVERY RSVP card that we have gotten back where the guests actually did initial, if one person wanted chicken and one person wanted beef, it is the woman who wanted chicken and the man who wanted beef.  Now, I know this will not be be case every single time, and I'm not trying to stereotype, but it seems be be the trend.  

My mom says that I should call each couple that wrote numbers instead of initials and ask who wants what.  This includes several distant relatives on FI's side that he doesn't have phone numbers for.  

I say if a couple RSVPs and doesn't indicate who wants what, we should just assume that the woman wants chicken and the man wants beef.  And, even if this is incorrect, they will be sitting next to each other and can switch plates.

Do you think calling each couple that didn't initial is necessary?

katehar01

Honestly, that is what I'm doing.  I'm not really going to "assume" one way or the other, just randomly put salmon or chicken, haha.  If the waiter starts putting down the wrong thing, they'll tell them.  Now, this wouldn't really work if you had RSVP cards for 3 or 4 people in the family, but all of our guests that this affects are couples, so I'm not really worried about it.

Simply Fated

I hate making phone calls like that because it might not be necessary, so even though I say you don't have to make those phone calls, I'm warning you that I'm biased.

I think you should at least contact the people you know. Maybe. Ugh, I don't envy you.

Is there a reason the venue needs the name of the person? Are you assigning seats?

Kate61487

If it's just a couple I would just pick one way or the other and let it be.  Like you said they can switch plates.  If it were a family of 4 I might go ahead and call because switching may not be as simple.

We went to a wedding in January where we ran into this issue - two of our friends realized when they picked up their escort cards that their meals had been switched b/c the girl was marked for fish and the guy for chicken and the girl doesn't eat fish.  They just switched plates.  At this particular wedding H was at the head table and I was at a guest table, so if OUR meals had been switched it would have been really awkward, but as long as they're sitting together I think it's NBD

Avion22

I would call the people you have numbers for.  If you don't have phone numbers, and it's as easy as a couple seating together swapping plates with each other, then I think that's fine.  If it's not that simple, then you'll need to track down a number.

Also, remember that your venue should have a few extra plates of each entree, so it shouldn't be a big deal if people get the wrong one or decide that they want to change entrees.

Mrs.B6302007

Yes, you need to call everyone for whom you have a number.  I don't think it's fair for you to assume the women will eat chicken and the men will eat beef just because you don't want to be bothered with  calling.  This is no different than having to call if the RSVPs did not come back to you.  I agree with Avion that there will be a few extras so switching will be fine if there are a few people whom you can not reach and your guess on their order is not what they want.

kimandjosh22

You should probably call, chances are most people won't even remember what they ordered on the day of the wedding, but you never know if someone might have some sort of dietary restriction that was behind their choice. 

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No don't call.

aragx6

I would call.

libby2483

Well, it seems like people have a variety of opinions on this. I think that I will contact people I have numbers for, but not stress about contacting those that I don't have number for. All couples will be seated together, so it shouldn't be a big deal if a couple people need to switch. Thanks, ladies!