Returning Gifts?

yma1624

This just might be a horrible question, but here it goes. My Aunts and sister (MOH) are throwing me a Bridal shower this weekend, and I already know that there is one duplicate gift. My grandma had bought me something that was on our registry from a store other then where we are registered at (she doesnt drive so my dad took her and told me). By the time that I made it home, where I was just going to take it off the registry, someone had already purchased it. I guess my question is, do I wait until after the wedding to exchange it?? Don't be to harsh. Lol, I understand it sounds like a pretty bad question.

Celles

Personally, I would wait until I had both gifts in my possession before returning one.  If you receive them both as shower gifts, then I think you're fine to return one before the wedding (but I'd still follow the conventional wisdom of not using it until after the wedding).

PharmacyBride

Ditto.. PP

Most stores follow a return policy "X" days after the wedding- but be sure it's not "x" days after the purchase date.  Each store has different polices.

Also- thank both people as if their gift was the one you kept.

: )

yma1624

Lol, yeah. I would never DREAM of sending a ty note saying that we took the gift back. :-) I just didn't know what to do since they will both be there and see that I got two. :-)

skippylouwho

Thank them both for the gift, don't tell them you received two. Return one and go on with your life.

nhelene

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[QUOTE]Lol, yeah. I would never DREAM of sending a ty note saying that we took the gift back. :-) I just didn't know what to do since they will both be there and see that I got two. :-)
Posted by yma1624[/QUOTE]

I went to a bridal shower where this happened.  It wasn't a big deal.  Everyone kind of laughed about it and one of the givers said "Well, the receipt's in the box!"

People are pretty understanding about that kind of thing.

Katie Kalfas

Just return one and send thank you notes- and get over it.  You don't have to tell them you returned it.  And if you continue sweating such minutiae, you will drive yourself crazy- a wedding is 1 little day of your life that you may regret later on spending so much energy on stupid details. 

brookelynpaisley

I'd wait until you have them both. If I remember correctly, BB&B doesn't show when registry gifts are returned by the bride and groom, but don't quote me on that. Other stores may be similar, or you can just ask that it still show up as purchased if you're worried about offending the giver.

brookelynpaisley

Oh, yeah, if it's for your shower and both givers will be there, it's no big deal. It's not like anyone is going to say anything about "but it wasn't checked off when I bought it!" It's really no big deal. People understand that sometimes people don't understand how registries work.

JennaV26

That happened to me and it was no big deal (but I was glad that I had registry stalked enough to expect it!), the person who gave the gift was like "Sorry about that, feel free to exchange it!" And if you end up getting the same gift at two different showers just smile and say thank you like it's the first one you've gotten.

Manwaithiel

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[QUOTE]Just return one and send thank you notes- and get over it.  You don't have to tell them you returned it.  And if you continue sweating such minutiae, you will drive yourself crazy- a wedding is 1 little day of your life that you may regret later on spending so much energy on stupid details. 
Posted by 8348190424071534[/QUOTE]


I think you're the one who needs to chillax. It's an honest question. Go drink some wine or something.

Galaxy8227

That happened to me at my shower a few weeks ago.  They both came up to me and said they understand if I return one of them.  They couldn't be nicer about it. 

jakstr0808

Just so you know.............BB&B actually DOES show returns sort of by changing the number of how many of the gift you're getting (next to how much you requested).   It was actually funny because I got a duplicate gifts of something I meant to take off the registry because I decided I didn't want it at all (one was bought from the registry, one was not) so when I returned them my registry showed that I was "getting" -1 of them (since I originally requested 1 but returned 2)!  Of course I immediately took that off the registry.  But just so you know if you return something that was/is on the registry they will alter the number of them that have been bought ("you are getting"). 

I dont know about other stores.  So OP just check to make sure when you return the duplicate it doesn't set your registry to say you are getting 0 again, so someone might buy it for you again.