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Engagement announcement on Christmas cards...yay or nay?
My mom asked if I wanted her to put my engagement on their Christmas cards this year. She always puts together a "photo letter", with captions and little paragraphs of events throughout the year (e.g., graduation, moves, vacations, etc.).
She said she didn't want to take away from any announcements I do, and so left it up to me. I'm totally fine with her putting it on there (I send out my own Christmas cards as well, but everyone on my list already knows), but figured I'd check with you etiquette gurus to make sure I/she wasn't breaking any rules (or ya know, being horribly tacky 
). Not everyone on her Christmas card list will be invited to the wedding, but it's a small friends/family thing.
). Not everyone on her Christmas card list will be invited to the wedding, but it's a small friends/family thing.
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Re: Engagement announcement on Christmas cards...yay or nay?
The engagement may also be announced at an engagement party.
[QUOTE]My mom asked if I wanted her to put my engagement on their Christmas cards this year. She always puts together a "photo letter", with captions and little paragraphs of events throughout the year (e.g., graduation, moves, vacations, etc.). She said she didn't want to take away from any announcements I do, and so left it up to me. I'm totally fine with her putting it on there (I send out my own Christmas cards as well, but everyone on my list already knows), but figured I'd check with you etiquette gurus to make sure I/she wasn't breaking any rules (or ya know, being horribly tacky ). Not everyone on her Christmas card list will be invited to the wedding, but it's a small friends/family thing.
Posted by emyinpink[/QUOTE]
I think that mailing something out would imply that the receiver would be receiving an invitation later on, just as someone invited to an engagement party would expect to be invited to the wedding.
I would leave it off, and send wedding announcements after the wedding, if you really want.
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Maybe I answered too soon because mailing engagement announcements is poor etiquette but I'm not 100% sure about just including it in a Christmas letter.
hey, my BFF wrote that her husband got a new liver and they named it "Larry"
Perhaps mentioning your engagment wouldn't be that bad after all
[QUOTE]Is this one of those "What happened since last Christmas" sort of letter Maybe I answered too soon because mailing engagement announcements is poor etiquette but I'm not 100% sure about just including it in a Christmas letter. hey, my BFF wrote that her husband got a new liver and they named it "Larry" Perhaps mentioning your engagment wouldn't be that bad after all ;)
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]
<div>Yea, OOT, this is exactly it :). I definitely wouldn't be sending out separate announcements. </div>
hmm, I'll bow to the other ladies as I now have a bit of a hangup about Christmas letters.
poor Larry
Anyone getting the letter and interested in attending the wedding would be prompted to inquire about more details, in which case, they would either have to be told then that they weren't actually invited, or they would be given a bunch of details, and you may be under pressure to invite them later because they REALLY REALLY REALLY want to go.
The people that REALLY need to know about the engagement already know anyway.
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[QUOTE]I still think it would come off a little, erm, haughty? Like, "Hey great Aunt Sally - Look! Emy and Emy's FI are engaged! Oh, but you're not invited" Anyone getting the letter and interested in attending the wedding would be prompted to inquire about more details, in which case, they would either have to be told then that they weren't actually invited, or they would be given a bunch of details, and you may be under pressure to invite them later because they REALLY REALLY REALLY want to go. The people that REALLY need to know about the engagement already know anyway.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is exactly what I needed to hear, thanks :). That would definitely be an awkward phone call for my parents to have to deal with.
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[QUOTE]Heh, Manwa, some of my and his extended family definitely found out via facebook (parts of our families are not that close). Luckily they weren't annoyed :) (or at least, no one complained, although in wedding land normally people don't seem to complain to your face)
Posted by emyinpink[/QUOTE]
Ha, we were on the phone for a good 13 hours calling everyone and we STILL managed to miss a good friend who found out through FB when we put it on there. She was not very happy. It was FI's friend and he felt pretty terrible about it. Sometimes, I hate FB.
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Putting together our Christmas card list this year was our first step in making up our guest list. So, the only people getting the newsletter are people who will eventually get an invitation (family and close friends).
We we got engaged, I didn't call everyone under the sun...I called my close relatives and we used Facebook to spread the word to our friends. The mention we made in the letter will cover anyone who we missed.
another option is maybe include the photo, and underneath it have it say "we had a trip to greece with emy and her fiance"
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[QUOTE]If it's actually a letter that details what you and your family have been up to, wouldn't be a little odd NOT to mention your engagement? But maybe I'm biased because I've read too many letters that are scraping the bottom of the family news barrel (do people really need to know that Sally got through the first year of middle school with straight A's). I mean I think it's perfectly legitimate not to include it, but if I recieved an annual update letter that mentioned an engagement I wouldn't assume I was invited.
Posted by sister2groom[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm going to agree with this.</div>
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