I recieved a phone call from my FSIL, she was asking about the invitation for her friend "kim". Long story some what short:
When we gave out the save the dates, "kim" was given one as she had volunteered to do the bartending for our wedding. (She lives out of town, but owns her own bartending buisness.) About 5 months ago she called my FMIL and told her that she would rather be a guest at the wedding. My FMIL called me and asked if it was ok for "Kim" to just be a guest, my FI and I both agreed that we did not want her at the wedding if she wasn't bartending. I was then under the impression that FMIL was going to call "kim" and advise her of this.
So with the phone call that i recieved yesterday I explained this to my FSIL, and she was very upset. she went on to tell me how rude it was for her not to recieve an invite after recieving the STD. I tried agian to explain that she only got the invite as she was going to bartend for us. This is now a huge family thing and it is driving me nuts. My FI is the one who is dealing with his family. But they are trying to call me and try to get us to change our minds.
Why would we invite someone who I have only met a few times to be at our wedding when I dont even have room for some of my family, as we have a tight budget??? I am wrong in this, as she did get an STD.
The most beautiful things in the world are not seen nor touched. They are felt with the heart.
-- Helen Keller